We are Living Ghosts

Our husbands (or wives) are gone and we are left in the living world feeling like a shadow. We rattle around  familiar, lonley places wrestling with anguish hoping to find some solace in daily routines. Our desperate hearts are ever reliving memories of the past. We wonder why our families and friends can't see us clearly. They can't see how we grope to hold onto the flesh that was once ours or how we hurt as much as we did that first day when we were seperated from life. When they are brave enough they stop and come near and listen to our wailing often meeting us with looks of disbelief, horror, or pity. Some never darken the door again for fear of haunted places.

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swindy
swindy

How true. I had a good friend ask me what it was like to lose your spouse and I couldn\'t think of any words to say. How do you explain how bad something hurts, can\'t they see it on our faces or in our actions? Diane
bostonjules
bostonjules

I so agree with the concept of the living ghosts rattling around familiar places, wrestling with anguish..that so my everyday right now...I\'m just a shell. I\'m so with you on this. jules
deleted_user
deleted_user

You have fabulous writing skills. I really enjoyed this post. I think you best describe us, and no one understands until they have walked in our shoes. Have a great day. Hugs~Shelley
deleted_user
deleted_user

How true your words....This totally describes our lives now. -- Dawn
Community Leadermarjoe
marjoe

Yes - you write from the heart, soul and gut. In the first months it was trying to make sense out of something so out of our control....heart and mind battling. I couldn\'t, and still can\'t, explain it to myself - how could I even try to explain to anyone else, how I feel?