Very proud of my decision

So... i'm very shocked with myself right now.  There's a guy who started messaging me on fb on the first.  he's an ex-coworker of my brothers.  we started talking, getting to know each other, yadda yadda.  it got serious super quick and super non realistic.  he's been with his wife for 13 years.  he's German and moved to the states to be with her.  we're close in age, we're Pisces we both thought everything was perfection.  today and yesterday we didn't talk as much.  that's where i snapped the fuck out of it and realized... he lives his own life without me, he has his whole other life over there in Fort Collins.  we're a 7 hour drive from each other.  when he told me they'd been together for 13 years is when it hit me.  i can't sneak around with him.  also Billy told me i was being distant.  i feel like my life with Billy is so much more important and we've come a long way.  i think Andreas needs to stick to his wife and work on their relationship.  i told him we could only be friends.  if we were to both become single then that's a different story.  until then... friends.  :)   i'm so glad i've had this self control, and stepped away and looked at the big picture.  i feel like i've really grown.  :)