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i am posting this in breakup and divorce forum to rant i am so pissed
ok so my oldest daughter has a mood disorder, wont diagnos her with bipolar, but she does have aspergers, so yesterday, both my kids were with their mother, and my oldest had a blowout tantrum over something, so the phone started ringing off the hook, my STBX the one who cheated and left, starting going off on a tirade about never having time to herself, blah blah blah, ok
to explain the kids, my STBX works midnights 5 days a week, they go to her house after school i pick them up afterwork, at 6:30 and they sleep at my house 5 days a week, they do sleep at her house when she is off, but i am still their taxi service not to bad mouth the spouse but cause she is lazy, yes i get free time in this but i also have the kids way more than she does seh rarely feeds them after school so it becomes my job, i get them bathed do their homework and feed them nightly.
ok back to my rant, so i tell her i will come get them and the kids dont have to come to her house anymore so she can have all the free time she needs, since she is pissing me off at this point i say, so your alcoholic boyfriend can come over and screw you all he want.
again side story, my wife has two boyfriends, one in another state who is a convicted murderer,. and the other an alcoholic who used to be my best friend but i got tired of cleaning up his messes and focused on me.
she then begins to tell me that the alcoholic wants nothing to do with her either, Jimmie (thats the murderer) is better man than both of you.
now i lost it, i flipped out on her over the phone after 13 years of marriage, i get the a convicted murderer she has never met only talked to on the phone, is a better man than me, WTF
ok rant over
ok so my oldest daughter has a mood disorder, wont diagnos her with bipolar, but she does have aspergers, so yesterday, both my kids were with their mother, and my oldest had a blowout tantrum over something, so the phone started ringing off the hook, my STBX the one who cheated and left, starting going off on a tirade about never having time to herself, blah blah blah, ok
to explain the kids, my STBX works midnights 5 days a week, they go to her house after school i pick them up afterwork, at 6:30 and they sleep at my house 5 days a week, they do sleep at her house when she is off, but i am still their taxi service not to bad mouth the spouse but cause she is lazy, yes i get free time in this but i also have the kids way more than she does seh rarely feeds them after school so it becomes my job, i get them bathed do their homework and feed them nightly.
ok back to my rant, so i tell her i will come get them and the kids dont have to come to her house anymore so she can have all the free time she needs, since she is pissing me off at this point i say, so your alcoholic boyfriend can come over and screw you all he want.
again side story, my wife has two boyfriends, one in another state who is a convicted murderer,. and the other an alcoholic who used to be my best friend but i got tired of cleaning up his messes and focused on me.
she then begins to tell me that the alcoholic wants nothing to do with her either, Jimmie (thats the murderer) is better man than both of you.
now i lost it, i flipped out on her over the phone after 13 years of marriage, i get the a convicted murderer she has never met only talked to on the phone, is a better man than me, WTF
ok rant over
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That really stinks. You are better off without her. You deserve Better
This is more evidence that you need to distance yourself from your STBX, and you are making the right move with the divorce. Try not to let the words of an unstable, spiteful person get to you...take it from the source. Your ex is only trying to hurt you, don\'t let her succeed. Keep going, you\'re doing great.
I am sorry for all this drama. With your Daughter being disabled, You should look at it as a positive thing. With her blow outs wait to talk to her until she is done. then talk to her calmly she is special and yes she needs help. But as I look at this she is struggling with your divorce. its hard for change with both parents in different enviroments not living together. Just be patient with her. She will come around. Now for your ex well she is actting out thinking she can talk to you how ever way she wants but as a mother she should always want time with her children. Even if she doesnt have time to her self. she should look at it as if she gets that extra hour before bed or the quiet bath time, just something when the kids are quiet or gone take what you can. She might be bipolar as well. If she is talking like this to you all the time you need to talk to the courts. Figure out what you can do to help resolve this cause it is not good for the children to hear her talk to you like this. She as in ur ex has no respect for you. Im sorry I hope this helps. Best wishes and luck to you!!