Tuesday pm
Interesting quotations by Nathaniel Branden from his older book called "The Psychology of Self-Esteem" that seems to concern me and some of my problems:
"Neurosis, on the other hand, occurs when we let our feelings dictate our thoughts and actions."
"When we feel anxiety, guilt, or depression, that is telling us that our consciousness is in an unhealthy state. To correct it, we must reassert ourselves as an individual and assess our values, perhaps forming new ones. In contrast, when we sacrifice reason to our emotions, we lose trust in our own judgement."
"People in high self-esteem are guided by objective facts. They have a good relationship with reality, and always seek to stay true to who they are.
Their opposite is someone whose life is not really their own, who life lives to satisfy the expectations, conditions, and values of other people; they want to be seen as "normal" at all costs, and feel terrible if others reject them. Braden calls such people "social metaphysicians" because their philosophy of life revolves around others, not themselves. Of course, this person will label their style of life as practicality", as if self-sacrifice were quite rational. However, every step along this path leads them away from what is real and toward a loss of their true self."
"The more decisions we make that reflect our highest good, the better we will naturally feel."
This is about my adolesence problem where my feelings, intuitions, block my ability to think. IMO. It also hints at co-dependency. I can see where my adolesence problems may have caused me to want to be "normal" and be accepted, or that my allergies made me (or should I say my maind at that time errantly CHOSE) belive I was abnormal and I rejected myself and desired too much to be "normal", like most of the other kids. Then what about the effects of HSP and shyness?
Anyway, it may be a book I want to investigate in the near future.
As it is, getting off the Effexor and atenalol, and only taking 10 mgs. of Prozac right now has me feeling much more positive and optomistic. I don't know whether it's the lack of drugs our the realization of my June 4th "Freedom" Journal entry that's caused me to become more assertive in accepting and being myself. I'm not as 'shy' about the possible 'catastrophy' of being percieved as 'foolish' as I was before. I've got an infusion of confidence about asserting who I think I really have to be instead of who I SHOULD be.
I feel GOOD, right now; and loving. If not a lot more expressive. NOW...is it a manic phase from getting off the drugs?Or is it a change in self-perception? I guess we'll find out soon enough.
Hugs,
Rich
"Neurosis, on the other hand, occurs when we let our feelings dictate our thoughts and actions."
"When we feel anxiety, guilt, or depression, that is telling us that our consciousness is in an unhealthy state. To correct it, we must reassert ourselves as an individual and assess our values, perhaps forming new ones. In contrast, when we sacrifice reason to our emotions, we lose trust in our own judgement."
"People in high self-esteem are guided by objective facts. They have a good relationship with reality, and always seek to stay true to who they are.
Their opposite is someone whose life is not really their own, who life lives to satisfy the expectations, conditions, and values of other people; they want to be seen as "normal" at all costs, and feel terrible if others reject them. Braden calls such people "social metaphysicians" because their philosophy of life revolves around others, not themselves. Of course, this person will label their style of life as practicality", as if self-sacrifice were quite rational. However, every step along this path leads them away from what is real and toward a loss of their true self."
"The more decisions we make that reflect our highest good, the better we will naturally feel."
This is about my adolesence problem where my feelings, intuitions, block my ability to think. IMO. It also hints at co-dependency. I can see where my adolesence problems may have caused me to want to be "normal" and be accepted, or that my allergies made me (or should I say my maind at that time errantly CHOSE) belive I was abnormal and I rejected myself and desired too much to be "normal", like most of the other kids. Then what about the effects of HSP and shyness?
Anyway, it may be a book I want to investigate in the near future.
As it is, getting off the Effexor and atenalol, and only taking 10 mgs. of Prozac right now has me feeling much more positive and optomistic. I don't know whether it's the lack of drugs our the realization of my June 4th "Freedom" Journal entry that's caused me to become more assertive in accepting and being myself. I'm not as 'shy' about the possible 'catastrophy' of being percieved as 'foolish' as I was before. I've got an infusion of confidence about asserting who I think I really have to be instead of who I SHOULD be.
I feel GOOD, right now; and loving. If not a lot more expressive. NOW...is it a manic phase from getting off the drugs?Or is it a change in self-perception? I guess we'll find out soon enough.
Hugs,
Rich
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I guess we will find out. I like what you wrote about people who don\'t have their own life, there are a lot of them. I would like to think their is a balance between doing things for yourself and fulfilling legitimate responsibilities. :)