Triggers Just Pulled

Im not the type to physically fight. My trigger was just pulled hard. Its 223am dad comes in my room while I was writing and listening to music on my headphones and he hits my left arm out of nowhere. It took so much not to move my body at all. Starts going on another yelling war about how I need to go to sleep and that I write too much..... ? Im almost 24 who are you again? That's a huge pet peeve of mine. My "ex" love Mark did it, my bio mom tried to do it, my sister always does it and it triggers rage and a feeling of depression. If I can't sleep or I just want to be alone with my thoughts and im not making noises, dont tell me what to do and be unsupportive. Dont treat/ talk to me like a child. Now with him he over shot by hitting me and adding violence it wasnt a tap it was a hit and a raised voice yelling fit. When I am not spoken to as a woman dont expect me to open up and be okay. In fact it makes me shut down for a long time and sometimes take steps backwards. Huge trigger because im not a child I am a damaged loving woman who will open up slowly but not when people make me feel small. Granted not all people try to make me small by doing this but people have to understand when you won't let me do what I want espically when im doing in the first place to try to help myself, it makes me feel like I am not an "equal", like I'm smaller than you. For exsample; I tried to move back to my hometown several times and was told what was "best for me". Well I was trying to move because I am being abused and that is what I needed to do. No the person did not realize the exstent to this problem and I didn't feel that I could exspress that far because I needed the support first. However the person kept making discouraging faces and remarks that made me feel horrible. So depression kicked in, and I'm still being abused. IF this person would have supported me instead of treating me like a mindless child, I would have felt that I could open up more about why I really moved back. I would have been able to reconnect with myself in peace without negative energy in my space. I would have felt like I had protection and support and love over all. I'm not a child, you're hurting me when they dont support my decisions. I know whats best for me. No one may understand, but you have to trust me. Does this make sence to anyone?