TRADGEDY FOR MY FRIEND..PRAYERS NEEDED.

I WILL BE LOOKING AT THIS PICTURE OFTEN WHEN I GET DEPRESSED ABOUT OUR LONG....WINTER. WE HAD MORE FREAKING SNOW YESTERDAY AND LAST NIGHT ABOUT 7 INCHES. TODAY JUST A FEW FLURRIES AND WINDY SO THE SNOW IS GETTING BLOWN AROUND. THE SUN HAS PEEPED OUT BREIFLY BUT SAW THE SNOW AND WENT AWAY...LOL!! ONE GOOD THING ABOUT HAVING SNOW IS THE TEMPS STAY AROUND FREEZING.
WE HAD A HEART RETCHING PHONE CALL FROM A DEAR FRIEND YESTERDAY. HIS NAME IS RICKY AND HE WAS OUR BEST MAN AT OUR WEDDING. HE AND MY HUBBY HAVE BEENĀ  FRIENDS FOR YEARS AND I HAVE KNOWN HIM WELL FOR ABOUT 30 YEARS. THIS GUY IS SO...SWEET AND KIND BUT BAD LUCK FOLLOWS HIM AROUND LIKE A THUNDER CLOUD. WE TOOK HIM WITH US ONCE ON A CRUISE AND HE SHARED OUR ROOM. THAT IS HOW COMFORTABLE OUR RELATIONSHIP IS WITH HIM. ANYWAY, HE ALSO SUFFERS FROM DEPRESSION IN A SEVERE WAY. IT DOES NOT TAKE MUCH TO KNOCK HIM INTO A DEPRESSION AND ONCE HE STARTS HE SPIRALS DOWN VERY...FAST!! WELL, HE SHARES A HOUSE WITH A GOOD FRIEND IN MONCTON ( A CITY ABOUT 30 MINUTES AWAY FROM US). THE FRIEND HAS BEEN SUFFERING FROM DEPRESSION FOR ABOUT 8 MONTHS BUT WAS ONLY BEING TREATED BY A REGULAR DOC. THE MEDS HE WAS ON WERE NOT WORKING. RICKY TRIED TO GET HIM TO SEE A PDOC BUT THE GUY WAS EXTREMELY RESISTANT TO THIS IDEA. ANYWAY, THINGS WENT SOUTH ON THE WEEKEND AND THE GUY ENDED UP IN THE PSYCH WARD. THERE THEY ASSEST HIM AND TRIED NEW MEDS. HE WAS RELEASED ON WEDNESDAY. I GUESS THE HOSPITAL THOUGHT THAT HE WAS OKAY TO BE RELEASED. WE ALL KNOW HOW WE PUT ON THE "HAPPY, EVERYTHING IS FINE FACE". SO ON THURSDAY RICKY ASKED HIM IF HE WOULD LIKE TO GET OUT IN THE SUN AND TAKE A DRIVE. THE GUY WAS HAPPY TO GET OUT OF THE HOUSE. THEY HAD LUNCH AND THEN HEADED FOR A TOWN CALLED SHEDIAC. NOT LONG INTO THE TRIP THE GUY SID THAT HE THOUGHT HE WAS GOING TO BE ILL SO RICKY PULLED OFF TO THE SIDE OF THE ROAD. THE MAN JUST SAT IN THE SEAT SIDEWAYS AND ALL HE COULD DO WAS THE DRY HEAVES. HE THEN SAID THAT HE THOUGHT SOME AIR WOULD DO HIM GOOD SO HE GOT OUT OF THE CAR. RICKY GOT OUT AND WENT AROUND TO THE OTHER SIDE TO HELP HIM. THIS MAN THEN WALKED AROUND TO THE BACK OF THE CAR AND DID NOT LOOK GOOD. RICKY SAID THAT HE THOUGHT THEY SHOULD GO HOME. THE MAN TURNED RED , CLENCHED HIS FISTS AND SCREAMED, " I CAN TAKE THIS!". RICKY GRABBED HIS COAT TO STEER HIM BACK INTO THE CAR. THE GUY BOLTED INTO THE ROAD AND THREW HIMSELF IN FRONT OF A MAC TRUCK. THERE WAS A WOMAN COMING BEHIND THAT WITNESSED THE WHOLE THING. SHE STOPPED AND RAN TO THE MAN. SHE THEN STOPPED RICKY FROM GOING TO THE BODY. AS IT WAS RICKY COULD SEE THE COAT, A SHOE AND A WATCH ON THE ROAD. THE PARAMEDICS WERE THERE ALMOST IMMEDIATELY. NEEDLESS TO SAY RICKY WAS IN SHOCK AND HE IS NOW IN THE PSYCH WARD. WE WENT TO SEE HIM YESTERDAY. I CALLED THIS MORNING AND HE WAS NOT DOING WELL AT ALL. IT BREAKS MY HEART TO SEEE HIM LIKE THIS. I ASK THAT ALL OF MY FRIENDS HERE SEND OUT SOME PRAYERS FOR HIM TO BE ABLE TO DEAL WITH THIS TRAGEDY.
TO HELP CHEER RICKY UP I BOOKED US ON AN ALL INCLUSIVE VACATION IN PUERTO PLATA AT THE END OF APRIL. HE WANTED TO GO AWAY WITH US AND WE WERE PLANNING TO DO SOMETHING BUT I JUST HAD TO GET SOMETHING BOOKED SO HE HAS SOMETHING TO LOOK FORWARD TOO AND PERHAPS THIS WILL HELP HIM A LITTLE. MICHAEL AND I HAD DECIDED THAT WE WERE NOT GOING TO BE ABLE TO GO AGAIN THIS YEAR AND JUST TELL RICKY THAT WE WOULD DO IT IN THE FALL OR NEXT YEAR. HOWEVER, UNDER THE CIRCUMSTANCES I JUST DID NOT HAVE THE HEART TO REFUSE HIM.
WELL, SORRY THIS IS SUCH A DOWNER JOURNAL BUT I JUST NEEDED TO GET IT OUT.
BE WELL. DEBBIE

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penny59
penny59

omg what a horrible thing to happen. my prayers are with you all. depression is a monster..so so sad...you are a great friend to take him on vacation to get him away from this.. hopefully this will help him.. hugs .marie
GeorgiaW
GeorgiaW

That is so heart breaking. It is hard enough to lose a friend to something like depression but to be right there when they kill themselves and be totaly powerless to stop them. I can\'t think of much that would be harder to deal with.
I do hope your friend as some good support, he will need all he can get right about now and bless you for the vacation time.
Sometimes we get tied up in thinking about work, bills and life that we forget it can all be gone in an instant and the real value is in doing what we can to make it all easier for those we love and care about.
deleted_user
deleted_user

It just makes me sick to hear such a sad story. Depression is just a beast. I would not wish it on anybody. I really get upset when people who don\'t know what they are talking about when they speak of depression. Just last week my customer and I were talkig about depression (they know nothing of mine) and her daughter (30\'s) pipes up and say\'s well those people just need to get a grip. I wanted to get a grip and it would have been around her neck. I feel so bad for your friend who has to endure the lose of his friend and the memories of what happened. He will never be the same. As for his friend he is where he wants to be, out of misery. Those of us who suffer from the dreaded mental anguishes know how it feels to not want to be here sometimes. Imagine being so bad that you just can not stay here any longer. So very, very sad. I will sure pray for Ricky. How kind hearted of you to be able to take him away for a while. It will be really good for him. Helps that you and Hubby are fun people. Not even close, but when we went to Cozumel there was a young guy on the plane looking out the window crying. Well you know me, big flirt, blabber mouth, few xanax, I went up and sat by him and asked him if he wanted to sit by us because we were fun. He tried to resist but I wouldn\'t let him. Well turns out his girlfriend never showed up for the wedding so he decided to go on the honeymoon by himself. Well he joined our group and had a ball. The men took him fishing and we took him when we went to dinner. When the vaca was ove he toasted all of us and said we were a gift from God. Hubby piped in and said are you sure it wasn\'t my stoned wife.. Big laugh. It is a good feeling to help people no matter how or why. Love you Naomi xo