Tom Zuba... seems like good advice

Hi Mamas,
Here's a good straight-talking piece. 
I love you all -
xox Sarah
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Tom Zuba
www.tomzuba.com
I’m going to come right out and say it.If you are working with a therapist,counselor,social worker,grief expert,minister,priest,or anyone else who is trying to help you navigate the wilderness of griefand they start talking about Elizabeth Kubler-Ross’5 stages of grief denialangerbargainingdepression and acceptanceplease, please, pleasedo yourself a favorand run as far away from that personas fast as you can.That “expert”does not know grief.Not really.Grief is the internal, automatic response to loss.Everyone grieves. Everyone.If you are alive and have attached to anything.Anything.A job.A pet.Your health.Your looks.Your house.A person.A certain lifestyle.Your car.Anything.If you have attached to somethingand you lose that somethingyou grieve.Automatic.Internal.And as much as I’d like to tell you that grief will beorderlyneat and tidypredictableand unfold in 5 stages,it will not.Period.Grief is wild,and messyand unpredictableand uncertainand ever-changing and unsettlingand unnerving.Most of us (all of us)are ill-preparedand ill-equippedto go with the flow of griefwhen it is our timebecausewe never talk about it.What it’s like to live with grief.So when grief does expresses itselfin the often surprisingand confusing ways it does,when all we want to do is sleepor we can’t sleep at all,when we eat and eat and eat,or have completely lost our appetite(and wonder if we've lost our mind).When we feelangryconfusedsadanxiousdesperatefrightenedlonelynauseousnumbdazeddizzy(to name just a few of the ways grief expresses itself)seemingly at the same time.We are experiencing grief.And when our arms physically ache to hold our beloved,when we have heart palpitations,stomach pains,and fight to keep our balance,we are experiencing grief.We think we are going crazy.We are not.We have entered the wilderness of grief.And in order to get outwe must go through.Period.