Thoughts of the Other Guy
When I first joined Cheaters Anonymous, I thought people were crazy for still having thoughts of their AP/OM/OW. Now I totally get the feeling. Even after all this pain, I can't get him out of my head. What's worse, he still sends me little emails and IMs. I have been ignoring them, but I don't know how long I can go with no contact. It helps to remind myself that he is married. If he wasn't, oh goodness, he would be so much more tempting. I think about how much he pleased me that night. It did feel really good.
After my ex broke up with me, I thought I would look at the OM with disgust. But we had a recent encounter at work, and gosh, he was still so sexy; I couldn't even look him directly in the eyes. I still lust after him badly, but I can't go back. If I want to move forward, I have to leave this chapter of my life behind. The problem is...will the other guy let me?
After my ex broke up with me, I thought I would look at the OM with disgust. But we had a recent encounter at work, and gosh, he was still so sexy; I couldn't even look him directly in the eyes. I still lust after him badly, but I can't go back. If I want to move forward, I have to leave this chapter of my life behind. The problem is...will the other guy let me?
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WM, 1st of NO YOU ARE NOT CRAZY.
Most of the CS\'s here are addicted to their affair partners (AP).
Welcome to the club : you are an addict and you are addicted to your AP.
One day at a time.
Big hugs.
haha thanks desertflower. This feeling feels so weird and wrong. And you\'re the best. {{hugs}} to you, friend.
And the actual act of sex was horrible, but everything before that was sweet. That is what I can\'t get my mind off of. But I\'ll keep it at that. I don\'t want to turn my journal entries into erotica.
Like DS said, this is normal, and its doubled because of you went through with your ex. In essence you are very vulnerable right now, so that is going to make you even more emotional. Without meaning to sound clich, or making light of your situation but a good healthy distractions could really help you at this point. This would be a perfect time to find something that you maybe have wanted to do but couldnt or didnt have the time toBowling? Croquet? Table Tennis? Macram? Kung Fu Movies? Whittling? Clarinet? Sky Diving? Barbequing? Physics? ( I actually took up physics, it can be very distracting, look up the theory of relativity and marinate on that for a minute, talk about a distraction), Juggling, Dominos, World Domination, Bugs Bunny Cartoons, Wood Cutting, Glass Blowing, Listening to all 24 hours of Pharrells Song happy 24hoursofhappy.com, (Sadly I have actually done this, not in row, but I have listened to all 24 hours of it), Three stooges marathon, run for congress are just some ideas. I would NOT recommend the following as distractions : Crack, Heroin, Bank Robbery, Catfishing, Anything dealing with Dr. Phil, High Colonics, Glue Sniffing, The Dallas Cowboys (I hate them and everyone else in the world should as well), The Philadelphia Phillies (Because they have the worst record in the National League and thus Suck Donkey Balls), Sucking Donkey Balls (Donkeys can kick and really hurt you), Sky Diving sans parachute ( I hear its a quite a thrill, but unfortunately the last thrill you will ever have) and Naked Ultra Marathon Running.
I hope this helps some, I pray for peace for you Be Blessed
Greenandclean. You are hilarious. I cannot listen to that song Happy. My ex used to love that song. I can\'t imagine him signing that song now. There is no more joy in his voice. Not since I confessed to him. He has been so dead lately. I can\'t believe I ruined his life like that. And you\'re right. I\'m vulnerable as hell right now. I think I will look into playing Dominos again. I suck at it. Could really use some practice.
Who would have thought out of that entire list that you would actually like Dominos? Now thats funny. I needed a laugh yesterday and a distraction so writing that list provided me with both. So I hoped it lightened your day some, it did mine. Be BLessed.