Thought we were making some progress
I'm back and just couldn't stay away. The packing and moving will get done and Ii really can't devote 24/7 to it. Each of you is an inspiration and a wonderful part of my life. Thought we were making some progress in our relationship with ES. Not so. On Saturday we made plans including times and places for us to visit the GC and take them out for a fun day. Arrived at ES home and no one was home. I of course was very upset. Since at the moment, his FB page is open to me, I wrote him a message asking what was happening? He said that he couldn't sit around waiting to see if we were going to show up since we hadn't confirmed our arrival. Just another excuse to get our hopes up and then pull the rug out from under our feet. This morning, I wrote him a message saying that he knows where we live. "If he ever wants any kind of relationship with us for himself or his kids, he will need to come to us. I am done playing games, the hurt, and the lack of care on his part. Until there is some thing from him, I am done." I just couldn't give up hope but couldn't do anything else after yesterday. I need this group so very much and all of you here. So, I will continue on here since you are my therapy and advice in so many things. We will live through Christmas, DH and I embracing each other and the life-saving precious gift of our Savior. Love and prayers to each of you.
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I\'m so sorry that this happened to you. It\'s the worst when our hopes are elevated only to be dashed again. Thank goodness you have DH. A loving relationship and mutual understanding of the pain certainly do go a long way! I, for one, think it\'s a good thing that you spoke honestly and sincerely about how you feel about ending the game playing, pain, lack of care on his part. If you haven\'t said this earlier, I bet it feels like a certain level of closure. I\'m not quite there with my ED yet, but I sense that time is emminent. Bless you for your love and prayers. And good luck with the packing!
((HUGS))
You need a time of healing Whyonlychild! You are wise to detach and give yourself this time!! Let God heal you and bring you and your DH to a stronger place emotionally! Love never fails....your love for each other will not fail to heal the hurting places!!
I am so sorry.
I\'m so sorry this happened. We are here for you and understand totally. Good for you for setting healthy boundaries.
Lots of HUGS to you.