This day was great:)

The day didn't start very well because my H was upset with my last journal post. I tried to explain to him that there would be times that I just needed to vent and say somethings so that I would feel better. I have no intention to hurt him at all. Thankfully he got over it quickly. Well I was totally dreading MC tonight, just kinda felt hopeless to even go. Well I wasn't not going to go and get a 25$ missed appt. fee....so out the door we went. I was afraid we would say something to piss each other off. All I can say is we both walked out of there smiling and feeling better. I was so happy. We where both happy. It was kinda weird because the counselor had us look at and talk to one another...really tell the other one how we felt without attacking. Of course I turned into a cry baby and  told my H that I was afraid he was going to leave me for the OW. Then he had to respond back.Then after we did this a few times she asked us to list a few things the other person mentioned.  She was teaching us how to talk to each other and how to listen better. I feel great...hit the elliptical for 40minutes and ran off some aggression. But over all the day was great!!!!! H was affectionate and loving and I am not think of the OW.

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deleted_user
deleted_user

Good for you!!! We have to count our blessing. Small as they come. Wishing u more good day
thebeachretreat
thebeachretreat

Glad you had a great counseling session. Seeing a counselor was a major help for me and my H. We did not like our first counselor but the second one really got us in a good place. I am glad that your counselor made your look and talk to each other instead of to the counselor.

Hang in there. In the beginning you may have one good day followed by a couple of bad days....in my case...I now have many days in a row followed by an occasional bad feeling - but rarely do I have a bad day any more.

Be patient with yourself. It takes time.
deleted_user
deleted_user

I\'m so glad you had a good day. It\'s days like these that reassure us that there is still hope and that the marriage can be salvaged. May you have another great day today :)
deleted_user
deleted_user

That little bit of communication can make such a difference and lift our hearts so much. I am happy you are doing well.
deleted_user
deleted_user

I am so glad you guys are in counseling. Since he definately has anger issues-it is one place where you can communicate with a mediator to keep it from turning into a battle of hurtful words. I hope he will consider individual counseling to help deal with his anger, he really sounds like he needs it. Honestly, if I had to deal with outburst of anger from my H while I am trying to heal from all this-I know I wouldn\'t be able to make any progress at all, so I hope he gets some help so he can understand where his anger is coming from and how to deal. Good luck!
DawnRanae
DawnRanae

I am so grateful to have had such a good day because they dont come often enough any more. So I hope things progress to more good days than bad like you said thebeachretreat because that is hopeful. I do see that communication is a major part....But sometimes it is hard to be sure on everything they say. That trust thing again..But what else can I do but put myself out there again to see if it can be salvaged. I guess that is what we are all doing.
Yes my husband does have anger issues that he needs to work on but for now all we can afford is the MC and hopefully that can help him resolve some things:) Thanks everyone and hugs to ya all:)