Thinking a lot lately...

For some reason lately, friends that I have had for many years but may not have seen too recently have contacted me to get together and catch up.  Three people in particular - - - and it has been great talking to them and figuring out where everyone's life is right now.  We talked about lots of things, of course the state of the economy :] , relationships, friendships, ageing, you name it - we covered it.  It was actually kind of nice to re-connect.  One person has a mother who gambles, but supposedly she is always in control.  She loves the slots and it very lucky and bingo several times a week, etc.  My friend, on the other hand, doesn't like any of it, but her mom depends a lot on her and after a few days, she says her mother gets very antsy and she (my friend), just HAS to take her to gamble - no matter what. :] Sounds familiar.  I think she is in her 80's and doesn't really like to drive and of course all of the places have long, winding roads leading to them.
Anyway, she insists her mother does not have a problem, and it's not my place to get into it.  I did say that I DO have a problem with the slots and have to stay away, without going into a long story about my journey.
I want to say that a few new people have written some very nice messages on the site to me and in the last week, they were so needed.  It's great to come to a place where people DO understand and accept you for where you are.
ODAAT - truly... and it is the only thing that works for me..
Take care,
Smokeygirl

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deleted_user
deleted_user

Interesting huh? I live in a senior park and so many of these people gamble. They are bored and have their ss and want to do something and sitting at a machine doesn\'t take youth or vigor. They all say they don\'t have a problem. Out of all the people here, none of them has ever admitted to having a gambling problem I had a close friend who also wouldn\'t admit it, but she confided in me one day that she once almost killed herself because she had lost 900 dllrs on the slot machine and she couldn\'t cover the bad checks. She told her dtr and she bailed her out. However, a year later, she did the same thing again and she was going to drive off the cliff. She still wouldn\'t seek help or admit she had a problem. Its all we can do to take care of our own problem and when a person admits their addiction then they will seek help also. Hugs barb
smokeygirl
smokeygirl

Hey Barb,
Nice to hear from you - heard you are doing great on your new program... yes, sadly, a lot of seniors have a problem. Just another reason to stop now and now be one of them! :] Take care,
Pat
DianneE
DianneE

It is so easy for us to see the signs of compulsive gambling in others, even when they are in denial, isn\'t it??? It is hard for people to accept that they or someone they love have a real problem. I\'m so glad I have this place to come to for support and understanding, and glad for you as a friend. Thanks for continuing to be here. Hugs, Dianne
smokeygirl
smokeygirl

Thanks Dianne - - - -you are always here, too for whatever support is needed!
I hope you are doing well!,
Hugs, SG