there's something to this

I heard a young man, well maybe middle aged, but younger than me

start to talk about his issues. He definitely was trying not to linger in the past

and suffer (suffer from - the way things were, things that could've been, should have been or ought to be) the questioning of it in an unending loop  - but instead he talked making a choice about how we suffer that day

about finding goals

and 'suffering toward' creating lives for ourselves and with the people we love and with things and causes we care about...goals.. I started to think about my own passivity at times

and yes labile and confusing sense of self - but I found this comment

by this guy inspiring....'suffering toward’ in the determination and the achievement

of your goals. I just thought it a different take.

If it's not holding onto the suffering but instead having the idea or awareness that at least shows you the choice

you are making.