The things he does to gaslight me.....

1. He projects his behaviors onto me and blames me for things I had nothing to do with.

2. He compares me to his exes or has at times in good and bad ways and compared me to my mother or how she acts.

3. He has controlled the money from the start in our relationship, but not mine.

4.  He's used Insults, demeaned or shamed me with put-downs and called me names, but so have I at times.

5. He's gotten aggressive and punched the wall, thrown and punched inadament objects to intimidate me.

6. Has a hard time or refuses to try to even trust me with his money.

7. He reuses to listen or talk out our problems/fights (Withholdng)

8. He goes and hides in his 'mancave' and shuts me out completely til he calms down. (Withholding)

9. He changes the subject or topic if it hits on something he doesn't want to deal with, like emotions of almost any kind. (Blocking)

10. He questions my memory of the events and puts me in a difficult position to recall the details, then says that's not how he saw it, so that's not how it happened at all. (Countering)

11. He makes my needs or feelings seem unimportant or invalid. (trivializing)

12. He tends to have forgotten what actually occurred or denies things like promises he has made. (Denial/forgetting)

13. He procrastinates or waits til the last minute to get things done and blames it on me.

There's more to add to this, but I can't think of it right now so I'll add more later or as I think of them.