The Cup of life

I think tonights entry will be about 4) my communication.  I could also add another rock to the cup that ties into it. 
7) my lack of patience
I know that I do not communicate well.  I let my anger get involved with it too much.  When something is not happening right then and now, i do get angered and am unable to comunicate with it.  I dont recieved communication well also when i am angered.  i think that is because I am too caught up in being angered.  I also lack on the following through part.  I say i will do something, and something else comes up, i totally forget about the first thing i was going to do.  I know sarah hates that out of me  I forget a lot of things.  Is it from stress? Is it because i am forgetful?  if i had to answer it right now, i think it would be because i dont communicate wel with myself.  I try to tell myself something needs to be done, but i move on while thinking about it and think about something else.  Like this week, today.  i am trying to clean my apartment out.  We have accumulated so much stuff, that i now realize that sarah had to have been overwhelmed with it.  I am now going through all of this stuff and looking at what we need, what we want, and what is garbage.  I did not listen as well to my wife.  I am sure that she has said we have too much stuff to me before, but just never 'listened.'  I will work on my communication with people in general.  As well as with myself.  I know that when sarah is trying to say something to me, that i blow up because of it.  I really am sorry for that.  I never meant for anything like this to happen to my wife.  I should have listened, truly listened, to what she has had to say.  If i am given the opportunity to speak with her about things.  i will listen with open ears, heart, and mind.  I need to also realize that i must follow through with what is being said and show that to others. Since i am thinking about it, i also do not communicate my intentions very clearly as well.... I really dont know what else to say.  i am realizing more and more each day how much sarah means to me, and how much i am the one who pushed her away from me.  I think if my communication was better, it would not be this bad.  There are some other things that i neeed to work on, but this is a big one.  I hope and pray that it is not too late to show her i can change for me and her.  I moved my progress level up a little bit. I feel worse each time i think about it and write it down.  But with writing it down, it becomes record.  As i record it, i can look back on it always and remind myself of what not to do, and how to do it better in the future.  almost at a 24 hour smoke free mark!  WOOT WOOT!