Thank you
I want to sincerely thank everyone for the responses to my last journal entry. I am going to try to go the way of compromise, but I'm not sure how amenable she will be to that. I've been on DS maybe 15 minutes over the last two days and she still wound up berating me over it. I'm back at work. I don't know if I was genuinely ill over the last couple days or just emotionally wrecked. I don't even know if there's a difference. I'm still exhuausted. I'm falling asleep as I type this. My desk is a mess, and it saddens and depresses me. My backlog is intimidating. I don't feel strong right now. Oh well. Whatever. I gotta do what I can. Moping doesn't help anything. Love,Steve
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IMO
1)You are in danger of losing you grip on your Basic Assertive Rights. (Copy can be found in Serenity... and while you are there pls read the News Item on Oxygen).
2) You have the right to communicate with ppl that make you feel good about yourself - and that includes having friends (on-line & off-line). Ditto doing things that make you happy.
3) You prolly need to learn how to shut off the negative comments from your wife. She has the right to her opinions - she does not have the right to force them on you.
4) You are being manipulated. Suggest (STRONGLY) that you read \"Who\'s Pulling Your Strings\". Again check out Serenity News for a review of this book. I\'ve read it until it\'s dog ear\'d and underlined passages so it looks like a rainbow fell into it.
HIGHLY RECOMMEND!
You\'re a tough guy - and SMART. I believe you can save yourself & your marriage. I recommend that you save yourself first!
Hang in their Steve!!
xox
oh hun....i am sorry. i wish i could send you some strength! why can\'t she see that you need things too and that the world really isn\'t all about just her! i really hope it gets better somehow for you. hugs!
I\'m sorry hun. Hugs to you, praying for you to get strength. I wish she understood how much you need this site as much as it needs you xo
Love you **Sends strength and love** xxxxxx