Stuck in a rut!!

We are both still very with one another. I am angry for the being betrayed and unwillingness to discuss it. Her continuance of doing things that cause the triggers. She is atill angry with me for the way I treated her poorly. Taking her for granted and not being treated as an equal. Both of waiting for the other to return to old habits. I wait to be betrayed and she waits to be treated badly. The reluctance to address the issue when they come up causes me great pain and anger. Caught up in this crazy cycle does nothing to make matters any better. So 1 year from coming to terms that our marriage is stuck in a rut of hurt only makes the memories of pain caused toward one another to grow. Neither of us has left the marriage but it isn't any better either.