Struggling again
About a month or so ago, the ex called me...so depressed and crying so hard I could barely understand him. I agreed to go talk to him in person. He set off to apologize profusely, crying, admitting that he was wrong and he missed his family. That everything I said before I left was absolutely right. I agreed to sit down with our daughters (15 and 19) and let him talk to them. To finally come clean on all the lies he had been spewing but we all knew to be lies. He did. The girls were upset but at the same time happy that he finally came clean.
That is the only happy part to this story. We bought in to the fact that he would work on his relationship with the girls...no. then he would try to manipulate me and tell me he missed me and there were times that he referred to me as his wife. Um NO!! We are divorced. It was irritating. I never wanted him back. I told him that the only reason that he felt this way about me was because he was lonely...because the OW turned GF had finally left him. OOOOPS poor baby, you are going through what I went through over a year ago. Why do you pretend to care? You didn't give two cents about how I was and what I was doing 18 months ago when you went out and found a gf...you didn't care when I moved out and was barely making enough money to survive....REALLY?
Of course, it was all short lived. He is back to lying to everyone. He is angry again. He threw in his daughters face that he had his GF are back together and making it work (wow, with all the trash you talked about each other behind the others back? ok have fun).
We are all done. I don't have another ounce to try to help him or care at all.
So riddle me this? Why am I crying?
That is the only happy part to this story. We bought in to the fact that he would work on his relationship with the girls...no. then he would try to manipulate me and tell me he missed me and there were times that he referred to me as his wife. Um NO!! We are divorced. It was irritating. I never wanted him back. I told him that the only reason that he felt this way about me was because he was lonely...because the OW turned GF had finally left him. OOOOPS poor baby, you are going through what I went through over a year ago. Why do you pretend to care? You didn't give two cents about how I was and what I was doing 18 months ago when you went out and found a gf...you didn't care when I moved out and was barely making enough money to survive....REALLY?
Of course, it was all short lived. He is back to lying to everyone. He is angry again. He threw in his daughters face that he had his GF are back together and making it work (wow, with all the trash you talked about each other behind the others back? ok have fun).
We are all done. I don't have another ounce to try to help him or care at all.
So riddle me this? Why am I crying?
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Oh my. Something you waited for, something your girls needed so badly, and again - all lies. I often sit and cry because my ex of 25 years left and never saw his kids again. They suffer so much. But I am certain that if he came back into their lives and then deserted them again afterwards - I WOULD KILL HIM. Sorry you have to deal with his crap. San
Its okay to cry. He came back into your life and disrupted it, and showed you again why you are better off without him. You are crying because you are still healing.
Thanks everyone. I need to hear this. I just need to refocus on my life like I was before I allowed him back in. I was so strong and still am. I thought I was through grieving!
You are crying because you are the better person and because you have a heart!! It\'s ok to cry! Get it out, scream, yell, and then realize he is a tin man and you do not want that and your daughters do not need that! (((((Hugs)))))