Stresssssss

This morning has been a very tough one. We went over to have breakfast with the family and it was hell. I was talking aobut going to the pool and how we should all go, when my MIL said she doesn't have the body for a bathing suit. I told her I don't either and she totally FREAKED at me. She said " I hate it when people who are beautiful and have nice bodies tell me they hate them. Some people like myself are born with marks on their bodies that prevent hem from wearing swim suit, unlike yourself." Then she continues to tell me how it doesn't matter what happened to my body from having a baby because I got a healthy daughter out of it. First of all, I was just saying that I don't feel comfortable in a swimsuit, and I can't help that. My body isn't the same way it was when I was a teenager and could wear whatever. It's hard to get used  too. Of course I love my daughter and I would NEVER trade her for a perfect body. She's worth every scar!!! I was really offended when she yelled at me! It was like she was saying I wasn't happy that "Gabby did this to me." F$@!, leave me alone. Unless you see me naked you won't understand.
Then Dave was getting mad at me being upset. I don't appreciate being yelled at like tha in front of everyone. Why couldn't he understand? He hasn't called me yet since he went to work and he usually does by now... he's mad at me, wow.
I work alot. I work from 7/8am-1pm, then i drive 20 mins out of town to babysit from 230-8/9. that means i dont get home until930 ish at night. That's a mon-fri gig. I dont see any of my paycheck because I get aid so little and it goes right into our joint account, which he doesn't like me spending from unless its an emergency. I dont know how much longer I can take this! He always complains about how the house work doesn't get finished... but seriously! When do I have time? He works his 8/9 hrs that it. no kids and diapers or babysitting. This doesn't seem fair to me! I'm getting worn out and he doesn't appreciate all I do. He forgot mother's day AND my bday which were a month apart. I feel like a nanny to him. He comes home and watches sports. He never wants to cuddle, which is ALL I ask! Just some time to ourselves. I'm getting sick of this... and when I'm not working he tries to get some work for me at his hotel!!! I'm tired and he doesn't care! most moms I know dont even work 8 hrs a day, let alone 5 days a week! I want to move and he doesn't. It's getting very overwhelming living this life and I find myself taking it out on Gabby now... what should I do or say to Dave to maek him realize how much I do and that I need a brake???