Started Volunteering
I finally started volunteering today. I haven't been in a couple of months... I was just not up to it. I had a good day, but at the end this guy tried to ruin it for me (I'm trying to get over it). He was in a wheelchair, and I see him approaching the door. I get up and open the door for him, even though he said he got it. I was just trying to be nice. As he wheeled away, he told me I was rude. I'm just trying to think positive... I don't know him, I don't know what happened to him to make him need a wheelchair, I don't know his life story. So I'm trying to get over it.
Other than that, volunteering went well. My boss is trying to push me to come in more days, but I'm sticking to my M/W/F routine. I don't want to burn out again. Plus, I'm still going to go up and see my mom every now and then. But it was a good day... basically my job today was to talk to people and see if they needed help, and just in general talk to people. I had a good day.
My diet is doing something funny to my body. I don't know if I like it. I have to see if it's something bad. I stink now. I'm doing the low carb diet, and I know it's going to change things like my breath, but I now my underarms stink too! I normally don't have to shave since my hair there is light and thin, and I used to never have to use deodorant. Now they stink and I have to shower like twice daily. I have a doctor's appointment at the end of next month, but I can come in earlier if I need to. I don't think it's a big thing, though. Just my body adjusting to ketosis.
Other than that, volunteering went well. My boss is trying to push me to come in more days, but I'm sticking to my M/W/F routine. I don't want to burn out again. Plus, I'm still going to go up and see my mom every now and then. But it was a good day... basically my job today was to talk to people and see if they needed help, and just in general talk to people. I had a good day.
My diet is doing something funny to my body. I don't know if I like it. I have to see if it's something bad. I stink now. I'm doing the low carb diet, and I know it's going to change things like my breath, but I now my underarms stink too! I normally don't have to shave since my hair there is light and thin, and I used to never have to use deodorant. Now they stink and I have to shower like twice daily. I have a doctor's appointment at the end of next month, but I can come in earlier if I need to. I don't think it's a big thing, though. Just my body adjusting to ketosis.
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I think you are handling the situation with the guy in the wheelchair the right way.... challenging the thoughts around the situation... you dont know him ... dont know what his story is... or maybe he just was having an around bad day... its not fair for him to take it out on you cause all you was doing was trying to be nice... but focus on that part you was trying to be kind.
Thats GREAT you are able to go bback to volunteering three days a week... its always nice to have a place to go and get out of the house for awhile. I know you enjoyed it in the past. Stick to your healthy boundaries and not let your boss push you into doing more than what you feel you can right now. Maybe you can work up to more later but 3 days for now sounds reasonable.
Hmmmm not sure what to say about the diet.... maybe cutting to low on carbs might be now a good thing? Maybe its your body saying it needs a few more carbs for energy? I hope the diet gets better for ya soon.
great news about voluntering again and you are right to stick to your guns about your availibilty. the man in the wheelchair appears to have some issues, whatever they are and you did the rigth thng about handling it, great job! as goodtogo said, maybe you are to low on carbs, i dont know what the effects are on that diet, when you see the doctor mention this and see what he says. you are doing great on the diet, trying your hardest, it isnt easy. hugss
Don\'t let the gentlemen in the wheelchair be too important. He may be dealing issues with being independent with his disabilities. You did what anyone else would have done...help someone.
Be careful with the low carb diet...
I always have to use extra deodorant when I am losing weight. It\'s not related to low carbs or anything, because I need it when I do low calorie too. My doctor said it\'s just my body working efficiently and burning and losing. And it\'s a good sign, she said :) So I always feel happy when I have to up the deodorant/antipersperant because then I\'m on the right track!! My body balances out too after a bit. All good!
Good for you for helping someone who was crabby like that. Definitely his issue, not yours. You did the right thing and the kind-hearted polite thing.
Thanks everyone for all the support... it just really got to me that he would be so rude. I feel better about it now, though.
You are handling the gentleman right. He has an issue. you don\'t know him or what he needs so you were trying to be polite. Good for you.
He maybe rude because he\'s new to the wheelchair and feels people are doing things for him because they feel sorry for him.. He doesn\'t want that. He forgot about the people in who just like helping others.
ignore the rude guy in the wheel chair. it was nice of you to hold the door for him. weird that he didn\'t say thank you. some people are rude in general. i do mortgages for a living and we don\'t do mobile homes normally, i looked at a guy\'s loan as a favor to the owner, came back with a rate for him from one of the two of our banks (out of 253 banks) that will finance a mobile home. he said his own bank has a better rate and i wished him luck.
three months later he didn\'t have the loan and it went on and on. that was like six years ago and its on my mind because he came by again YESTERDAY just to be harrassing and rude. i NEVER recognize him at all. he\'ll come by, will be angry that i don\'t know who he is on sight, and will rude me out. (he will show up again in a few months, and the same thing will happen again. he has no reason to be here, we are a mortgage office). lately, he makes cracks that i still work here and why stay at one job so long, its very weird, unless he is saying that because he was laid off at his own job? a total jerk. i have to knod and smile. then i remember, oh yeah, you are the guy with the trailer. how is that going. he doesn\'t have it anymore. i guess foreclosure. haven\'t looked it up. what a jerk!
he still comes by and still harrasses and for what? i don\'t know him. i don\'t normally finance mobile homes. i think its actually stalking when he does this, because i ran into him at my church and my church is 40 minutes from his house, what was he doing there?
best of luck with your diet. i\'m in weight loss too. have been overweight for 12 years now. very scary. lol. i need to lose about 75 pounds. how about you?