Somehow I've got to get us to marriage counseling

We are still moving in the right direction. She is telling me she is happier and that she loves me, but the future is still a question. This morning she told me she has to figure out how not to keep going back to the place of desperately needing to escape. I told her that it happens to everyone but she needs to trust the good feelings will always return to cast out the bad. That is the commitment part of our marriage. She is still not reassured and the separation is still a real possibility. I wish she would consider our going to marriage counseling. It doesn't have to be a bad thing. I think people believe it never works or is somehow admitting you are doing something wrong.  

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broken234
broken234

I am glad you are still moving in that positive direction. I used to think that counselling was admitting I had a problem but found that it has helped me more than I would have ever thought. I will keep praying for you and your family. I wish you the best.
idontmakeherhapyenuf
idontmakeherhapyenuf

Thank you so much Broken. It is easy to see the progress here compared to the horrible stories, but every day something catches me off guard and hurts. Today she told me to use her computer to place an order online for something. On the favorites bar of the browser was a website for meeting people over 40. I didn\'t realize what it was by the name and clicked it out of curiosity. It logged her in with saved credentials and her profile for the site came up. It was written as if she had already completed the divorce. I was crushed. I did not mention seeing the profile but pointed out the bookmark on the browser bar. She said she had joined the sight but not talked to anyone yet. She said we could easily look for a meeting site for meeting other couples to follow things with. The fear and pain from what I stumbled upon is hard to fight off. For those who think my battle is going easy, think again.