SO SAD!
It is late Sat. night or early Sun......Father's Day. We lost Scott on Father's Day 2007, although his actual angel date is June 17th. I am so sad. I remember I saw him alive last the night before about 9:30 p.m. I told him to be careful and I loved him. He gave me a cockeyed grin and left. At about 10:30 a.m. ( Father's Day) I heard him get up to go to the bathroom. He called his Grandpa, who he was supposed to plant a tree with, and told him he wasn't feeling well. (I didn't know about that until later..) I got up shortly after. I didn't check on him...no reason...I had heard him use the restroom. About 4 p.m. his Dad and I went to the pool. I listened at his door. I heard his breath. It sounded "funny" like when my mother-in-law died. I almost opened the door and thought, "No, I am waking him at 5:30 p.m. He needs to sleep and I don't want to deal with him "messed up". So selfish!!! I will always regret that decision. When I went in at 5:30, he was dead. I screamed for Craig. I called 911. I didn't do CPR. Craig beat on his chest. According to the ME he died about 4:30 p.m. What if I had gone in at 4 p.m. ? What if I had done CPR? I sensed it in the pool. I told Craig I really felt his Mom's presence. (She died in 2006) I talked about an old landlord who had lost their son. (23 yrs. ago) What if I had come back in to check on him? Would Scott be alive today????? I will always have that guilt, that demon. I feel like I knew and didn't act. I feel like I let my son die. So many times I took a shower before I checked on him saying to myself he won't be any less dead in a few minutes. It is something we had been dealing with for so long! I would give anything to be dealing with it now. I guess I just didn't really believe I could lose my son. Or, I really didn't want to face it. Or, I am a very selfish, cowardly woman/Mom I don't know!!!! My therapist says, "You were tired." I was. But what the hell kind of reason was that?!?!?!? I was tired when he was born and nursing every 2 hrs. I managed that!!! I miss my baby so much! And now, I have Melissa, too. I wonder did she suffer. Her mom called this morning. She was so sad. It has just been 3 wks. I am caught between 2 worlds of grief, it seems. I went to a funeral today. (Sat.) It was Craig's best friends Dad. I was sad for the family as it is the worst pain they have know. I whispered to his Dad, in his casket, please say hello to Scott for me. I just feel so lost.......'
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