Shit show last night grrr frustration
So last night we went out to dinner with my husband's parents. Everything started out fine. We had the usual dinner and a few drinks. I stopped after a couple (I am not much of a drinker these days) Then his mom started getting affected by the booze and next thing you know she is repeating herself and getting under my skin.
My husband goes to the bathroom and she uses that time to tell me "I know that I can get under peoples' skin. Don't say that I don't because I know that I do. I am afraid that you will become distant and not talk to us anymore. I don't want you to be not come for the holidays." I nodded my head and told her that I wouldn't become distant although I was thinking to myself that if I could i would. But of course instead I put a smile on my face and said that I wouldn't distance myself but that I will without a doubt need time to myself and won't want to talk to anyone. I also said that I wasn't going to be calling everyday.
Well the hubby came back it was the end of that or so I thought. Apparently when we went to the next bar I was walking ahead of them because I had to go to the bathroom so damn bad, Well guess she told my husband that "Your wife hates me doesn't she?" He was thrown off and pretty much told no offense mom but fuck you. She was like I know I get under peoples' skin and he was like mom you get under my skin and I am your son. You need to ease up. I know you are having a difficult time dealing with this but you aren't the one going in behind bars where you won't have freedom or beable to see your family or your wife.
So then of course we had a few more drinks and I was getting tired and we went home. That was when he told me what had happened. He talked to his dad and said he was sorry if he stepped over a line but his dad said he didn't. I told my hubby that it isn't that I hate her because she a good person but after awhile when she starts to drink she becomes annoying and obnoxious. I don't know if it is my emotions going arry or I just can't deal with annnoying drunk people anymore. I have little to no patience. Ya know?
So he has decided to have a dinner with just him and his mom to talk about everything to kinda lay everything out. They both need to say things to each other that they have been avoiding I think. So that was my night lol Fun stuff let me tell ya.
My husband goes to the bathroom and she uses that time to tell me "I know that I can get under peoples' skin. Don't say that I don't because I know that I do. I am afraid that you will become distant and not talk to us anymore. I don't want you to be not come for the holidays." I nodded my head and told her that I wouldn't become distant although I was thinking to myself that if I could i would. But of course instead I put a smile on my face and said that I wouldn't distance myself but that I will without a doubt need time to myself and won't want to talk to anyone. I also said that I wasn't going to be calling everyday.
Well the hubby came back it was the end of that or so I thought. Apparently when we went to the next bar I was walking ahead of them because I had to go to the bathroom so damn bad, Well guess she told my husband that "Your wife hates me doesn't she?" He was thrown off and pretty much told no offense mom but fuck you. She was like I know I get under peoples' skin and he was like mom you get under my skin and I am your son. You need to ease up. I know you are having a difficult time dealing with this but you aren't the one going in behind bars where you won't have freedom or beable to see your family or your wife.
So then of course we had a few more drinks and I was getting tired and we went home. That was when he told me what had happened. He talked to his dad and said he was sorry if he stepped over a line but his dad said he didn't. I told my hubby that it isn't that I hate her because she a good person but after awhile when she starts to drink she becomes annoying and obnoxious. I don't know if it is my emotions going arry or I just can't deal with annnoying drunk people anymore. I have little to no patience. Ya know?
So he has decided to have a dinner with just him and his mom to talk about everything to kinda lay everything out. They both need to say things to each other that they have been avoiding I think. So that was my night lol Fun stuff let me tell ya.
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Oh you handled it more gracefully than I would of, especially in this tense time. I would of said, Yea, you do get under everyone\'s skin, and I reeeeeally don\'t need this crap right now. I would say, I will see you occassionally, but only if you are sober.
So funny that she knows she is annoying but does it anyway.
Glad he stood up for you and is going to talk to her. I sort of feel bad that it has to happen right before he leaves, but she asked for it and obviously she would be annoying whether he was going in, or not.
I had an annoying mother in law in other ways. She was so judgmental and always saying terrible things to me and about me to my own mother. I thought one of the best parts of my divorce was NOT having her in my life anymore. Now she pretends to be so friendly when I have to see her, for family stuff. Oh screw that. She was a bitch, and is still a bitch , whether she is old or not. She always put me down when I gained weight. She is tiny. She was a pretty woman that looked young all of the time. HAHA age crept up on her, and she is now a shriveled up old prune.
It probably is best he talk to her. It will turn out different than if you blew up at her. Once he is gone, you don\'t have to be around her.
Ya I mean I use to be able to handle a lot from people but anymore I just don\'t care lmao. I try to not let things bother me and all. There is only so much you can take truly. I chuck it up to her being drunk and unable to handle the stress she is currently under from the situation. I even told her at a party I had to have some of the family over that all of a sudden wants to see him that if they did this whole \"I am so sorry you are having to go through this. Or the I wish I could\'ve seen you more shit I was going to tell them to leave because I just wasn\'t going to deal with people being fake. They have had like a yr to see him and now that there are x amount of days left they want to take time away from him spending with me. Luckily I didn\'t have to tell anyone to fuck off lol. Again would have done no matter who it was because I don\'t have patience for stupid fake people.
Other than that I am doing ok. Feeling a lil queasy today due to a couple of headaches I have had on and off. I only had like 3 drinks last night so not like I got it from that. And I took a nap too. Tomorrow will be better going to go out and have some sushi with the hubby ^_^