Sad for my kids
Tonight I am just so sad for my kids. I know they're 16 and 20, but they are hurting so much over this. He doesn't care at all. He is ruining our lives, and he doesn't care. How can he do this when I wasn't even aware we had problems and he didn't give me a chance to fix or try anything. He just runs off with his four month fling, to raise her kids: 4,6,8. Why? My kids are bawling and he is like stone.
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That\'s horrible. My wife split too, my kids are 17 and 26 and pretty disgusted with her. I\'ve stopped trying to get in her mind. I drove myself batshit crazy for many months trying to make sense of it all. Just be strong for your kids, be the sane parent. Have you looked at www.chumplady.com website? Pretty straightforward about cheaters and how they should be dealt with. Good
Luck :)
I am so sorry for your pain, and that of your children. That is what gets me, too, the fact that my husband hasn\'t even contacted our kids in the past four months. We don\'t even know where he is. This is so extremely difficult , amplified by the holidays. Sending you some peace.
Some people are just plain heartless. They only care about themselves and their own little world. They do what they want regardless of the pain they inflict onto others.
Great point scorpion how true that is..
It\'s just so painful, when I am holding them as they cry, which they never do, except that this is bone deep, and I can\'t fix it. Even now, after all he has done, I would take him back for the sake of my kids. But it\'s not about the kids, or me, it\'s only about him. And it hurts because they know what\'s coming. He\'ll stop communicating completely with them soon. (That\'s what his father did to him.) He told me he\'s divorcing me, not the kids, but I have been married to this man for 25 years. When the going gets tough, he splits. And he\'ll justify it by saying they were mad at him, or they didn\'t want to meet \"her\", or whatever other nonsense he has to tell himself to be able to sleep at night and make the affair and the tearing apart of our family OK.
I\'m so sorry you are going through this. It\'s probably one of the most difficult things you will have to face. Just be there for your children - they need you. As far as him, he has shown you his true colors. Feel it, navigate through it and trust that you are on the path to a better life. I know it doesn\'t make sense now, but it will someday. (((Hugs)))