Runs Hot and Cold... Constantly

It's bad enough that I deal with his rage issues that " pop up " at a moment's notice because of some unknown trigger. The so-called " trigger " is typically so small that I had no clue what it was, or even why he would fly into one of his rages because of it. Any normal person would be calm, and reasonable, but that's not even in his vocabulary. So is it any wonder that his rages usually catch me completely off guard. Plus any time he claims that ALL I ever want to do is ... bitch, complain, and argue.... he has NO CLUE that I'm NOT doing ANY of those things. Instead the ONLY thing I've ever TRIED to do is to talk to him about things going on in our lives, and how we can deal with them. How am I suppose to control how he perceives what I say to him ? I can't control how he thinks ! No matter how many times he says the same hateful things to me.... it will never make them TRUE ! ... Can I explain this to him ? Should I try to explain this to him ? HELL NO on both questions !! 

Where does that leave me ? 

Right now... I really don't know.

The only thing I've realized over the last few days is that I CAN'T talk to him !!!!! 

It's not that I simply can't talk to him about " certain " things. It's that I can't talk to him about ANYTHING !

Why you may ask ?! 

It's because no matter WHAT I try to talk to him about, he'll ALWAYS perceive it completely OPPOSITE to how I intended it !

Plus even if I should TRY to explain my TRUE intent in what I was saying to him, that would NOT work because he'll refuse to listen to me ! He lets his RAGE take over to such an extent that there is NO talking to, or reasoning with him, at that point. 

Right now he's taking a nap.. it's 4:36 pm.... I'm hoping that he'll sleep for at least another 2 hours or more ! At least while he's taking a nap, I have some peace and calmness !