Right or wrong vascilation - caught in a repetitive loop

Today life lessons really cleared some things up for me. I’m learning a great deal about how we each cling to things that define ourselves and others when we talk. I drove a sister to a John’s Hopkins got her appointment today. We talk casually but carefully. I completely submitted and yet then on the way back did not. Rather than just submit, I realize we each defined things, ourselves and each other as we communicated. I thanked her for talking. She was a very careful conservative person who doesn’t want to make mistakes and when I made mistakes was harsh, but I realized when we talked what it was about for her and I feel like I am understanding s different level of things here at the monastery and for myself.