reducing "Friends" list

I am reducing my "FRIENDS" list.  To me a "friend" is one who contacts you, one you responds or corresponds with you, and shows a little bit of interest towards you.  Some have requested my friendship and never contacted me again. Some who used to be my "friends" have abandoned me, will not answer my hugs, nor my personal messages to them.  What hurts is, these were the ones who I thought were people that I did my best to help, to encourage and, show genuine concern and love for them. Some I have deleted because of no response to me.  I did not do this on a whim.  I have saw them on line, I have read their comments to others and read the hugs they have sent to others.  I know they have received my messages, my hugs, and yes, even my pleas for them to correspond with me.  I have almost begged them to message me, still I am ignored.  I have asked them to remove me from their friends list and they haven't done that either.  I really don't understand why I am treated like this.  All I have ever done is to try to help them and be a blessing to them.  I have never purposely tried to hurt anyone here on DS.  I have even apologized to these for whatever I might have done that I didn't know about and, still no response.  If you no longer want me for a friend or, want me corresponding with you, please remove me from your friends list and I will totally understand.  I mean, if you ignore me and never correspond with me, why do you have me for a "friend" anyway? I guess I am a dinosaur and you people just ignore me without caring how badly this hurts.  Oh well, I have a lot of scars so, I'll just add these to my collection.

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deleted_user
deleted_user

Because you AREN\'T their friend. You are their mentor. Someone they look up to. Someone they come crying to when their lives are falling apart. They don\'t see you at eye level--especially being a pastor. They see you as being \"up here\" and they are \"down here\". They need your help. Give them your help and find true friends elsewhere.
deleted_user
deleted_user

I so understand this post, my friend. It is part of why I am leaving. I have been hurt so many times by people I supported, loved, and gave my time and compassion to. I will continue to do the same in other areas of my life,--but too much negativity is not good for us--we need to walk closer to God\'s Light, and where He leads. God Bless you always, Hugs, Judy
genebh
genebh

This same thing has always been one of MY problems w/ DS...friend \"collectors\"; don\'t correspond, just collect them... Like baseball cards. This gets weary. Gene
angeleyes92
angeleyes92

I completely understand. Just deleted people that I haven\'t heard from in a while and two noticed and asked why. Still not adding them back since they can\'t be bothered to correspond on a regular basis. Everyone has their own opinion of what friends on here means. Like you, I believe there should be a connection. This is my connection to people in the world so I look for people that actually care. Do what you need to and don\'t let your job interfer with what you do.
starbright1949
starbright1949

Some ppl like the thought of having a pastor up their sleeve when they get into trouble but that isnt a friend. Its like church time but therre is a game on so they choose the game the church will be there next week. But they shld really get to know you, You are a blast!!!!
deleted_user
deleted_user

Hey there, I just did this same thing and one of my so called \"friends\" is my very own sister. She can\'t have the spot light off of her own \"grief\" to ever call me or correspond but she did notice that I took her off my friends list, Actually, the list can get too long sometimes to where you can\'t give the attention like one should. I at least have comfort in knowing that I have not been purged from your list. Your theological and spiritual insight has been invaluable to me during this tragedy. I can only hope that I can be of comfort to you, friend. God bless you in all your efforts to minister here and in your daily life. In Christ, Dale...Brandon\'s Mom
Cherylsmum
Cherylsmum

I have done this too this year after i lost my daughter. I can\'t be bothered with the people who did not call to see how i was. I don\'t need those sort of friends. I think you sound an interesting old dino. No offence meant.