REALLY bad day....

Please...I need some support, some help, some advice, ANYTHING, today was really bad at work.


It finally happened.  A huge fight in the office with the main bitch.  Yesterday, my boss was going downstairs to get my metrocard (he pays for my commute).  She overheard him, and stopped him from going with some b.s. about business.  So I had to wait and got home late because of her.  She did it on purpose, it's not my imagination because when she came in this morning she gave me some look, had some stupid ass smirk on her face like she just got over on me.  That's when I blew up, telling her she snitches on everyone (she does) and that the 35-40 new employees over 4 years that sat next to her, not one of them lasted.  She said they got new jobs.  I said well really, then WHY did they get new jobs???  (b.s. they all got fired because of her).  I complained to my boss in the past, but he doesn't really believe me because she's been there over 20 years.  There is no office manager, and the bitch does whatever she wants in the morning because no one there is watching the place, the boss and other lawyer are in court in the mornings.  I DO want to retire this year.


I know all this drama is caused by this 70 year old bitch who has been there so long she thinks she's the Owner.  I know I should leave, my time has come, but yet I hang in there.  WHY??? I don't understand it, it seems like I'm doing it to myself, I'm torturing myself.  WHY DO I STAY?????   I want to cry, I don't understand why I'm punishing myself.  Who knows, maybe I'll get fired next week when I go in again.  I really shouldn't go in, why do I do this to myself!!

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Ladybug7
Ladybug7

What a difficult place to work! I'm so sorry you're going through this. It’s clear she wants to get under your skin and is positively gleeful when she knows she has succeeded. It sounds like she has major control issues, and because the boss and other lawyer haven't done anything to curtail her behavior, she continues to act in the same obnoxious manner. If at all possible, the best thing you can do is pretend to be completely unaffected by her, even when you really wish you could tell her where to go. Don't give her the satisfaction of upsetting you. You remaining happy and calm will absolutely drive her nuts, and the tables will turn, because YOU will be in control of the situation. I would suggest setting a specific retirement date (if you haven't already) so you have something to look forward to, but ensure leaving is on your terms, not hers. Hugs, Judy
JeanCarlin
JeanCarlin

Wow, sorry you had such a bad day, she does sound like a real jerk, I wonder why she hasn't retired yet if she is 70, guess she just wants to stay to make other people's lives miserable. Try not to let her get to you, I know it's not easy cause I work with a few woman who like to think they are the boss and try too make my work day miserable but I try my best to ignore them. You should really consider retiring if you can and maybe find another part time job that you would enjoy doing. Best of luck to you!!
Hugs, Jean
cedarbrooke
cedarbrooke

Sorry Maria. Just ignore her, smile & ask her if she's having a good day! Maybe she will back off once she knows she not getting a reaction from you. Stay positive, June will be here soon. Hugs! Brooke