Processing

Still the confirmation call hasnae arrived, but it feels pretty right. My youngest son and wife are dead at the age of 36, leaving 3 orphans behind. We still havenae told the children because we arenae absolutely certain, but no one in the family has heard from either of them and my eldest son's car has been positively identified. It is highly unlikely another man and woman could have been in the vehicle.


We havenae told the children, but my Gamsense believes they already know. Last night, as Big Sis and I sang her "Where Did My Mommy Go" song, Big Bro shocked us both by adding a line to the song, quickly followed by conversation over fact that neither of them have answered his phone calls since Sunday. He woke early this morning while my dawn co-attendee slept in. WhTether they are simply picking up on the sudden shift in grand vibes or ? ? ? They know something is up. Nobody in the household appears tempted to testing limits.


Alas, the Powers That Be arenae so conservative in the limits testing. Dead battery discovered on the way to dance class yesterday afternoon. . . Plumbing leak in the turky yard discovered soon after. . . Another snake attack (no casualties) in the turkey yard this morning. . .


Sigh. . .


Prayers in progress. . . I am wearing my rose rosary today.

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Community LeaderSunCloudJD
SunCloudJD

Arfie I am hugging you..... I am so very, very sorry......xo
malibumark
malibumark

sending peace and strength arfie..
Imnotalone
Imnotalone

Oh my gosh! I am so sorry to hear about your son and wife. My own son is 37 and has 3 children ages 4, 2, and 5 months. I can't imagine what I would do if I lost my son and his wife or what their children would go through. I don't begin to know how devastating this must be for you. I am sending all the virtual hugs and comfort I possibly could send your way. I'll be keeping you and your family in prayer. xoxo
mlr0853
mlr0853

My Heart is With 'All"...Mega Prayers for Greatest Good ((((hugs))))
arfie
arfie

It is confirmed. My youngest son (36) and his wife are dead. The accident happened on the last turn to the farm Saturday afternoon. They were hit from behind by a driver who was not able to stop in time and pronounced dead at the scene of the accident. The medical examiner believes their deaths were instantaneous.

Now to tell the children.
SimpsonsOK
SimpsonsOK

Arfie, I think GS knows something is wrong since they wouldn't take his calls. Thank heavens they have settled into life with you and hubby.
Here are books to help young children deal with such an event. https://www.barnesandnoble.com/blog/kids/7-books-to-help-a-child-cope-with-the-loss-of-a-parent/ Losing your child is hard enough, getting 3 young ones through this... there are no words. Thank heavens for your strength. Comforting hugs and prayers for you and yours.
Community LeaderSunCloudJD
SunCloudJD

Arfie my heart is breaking for you and your family..... I am so very sorry for your loss......You are in my prayers.....xo
jewells1
jewells1

Arfie, I am here and my heart hurts for all.
SimpsonsOK
SimpsonsOK

Arfie, we shall stay by you in the coming days as the family regroups after this horrendous loss. A small comfort is that they were going to show up for the visit as their last act. You have lost your youngest; the grands have lost their parents. I know you will find the right words. Prayers will continue in the coming days as all family members adjust to this unexpected loss. My last reply was written before you sent the confirmation. What a hard week lies ahead. Support will continue.
SageLife
SageLife

Arfie,

I can't imagine what your going through but we are all here for you and your family. My heart breaks for you and the children. Prayers and peace my friend.
Community LeaderSunCloudJD
SunCloudJD

I don't know what you want to disclose on our PTSD board however we just want to send hugs and caring.....xo

https://www.dailystrength.org/group/post-traumatic-stress-disorder-ptsd/discussion/our-friend-arfie
looney1
looney1

The universe is out of kilter in sympathy for you and the children. They are so lucky to have you there for them. You will get through this one day but it must be so so hard for you all right now. Wish I could help in some way.
MayB
MayB

It's a hard hit and I'm joining in feeling much sympathy for you and your family. Sending all the good vibes I can manage as this difficult chapter unfolds....
arfie
arfie

After big brother got home from school, Hubs and I brought him into the living room with the two sisters and, after an awkward silence, I simply blurted, "There has been a terrible accident. Mommy and Daddy are dead." Big Sis has suffered the loss of the turkey babies with me, but death still doesnae mean much to a 3 year old. Big Bro asked a few probing questions before breaking into tears that lasted for? ? ? Who can keep track of time in such times. Gampy and Gammy turned him into a "Grand Sandwich" until the tears subsided.

Processing. . . Ouch to the ouch of the ouch. NO FUCKING FAIR! ! !
EvergreenDreamer
EvergreenDreamer

I have no words that can express how much i wish i could make this not so....... I pray you are able to continue to care for yourself as you face care taken of the entire family at such a painful loss. We are all here for you.