People treat you different with a loss in your life - it's unfair

People treat you differently when you lose someone special in your life.  I am a widow now.  I am not a man eater.  I am finding some people are not so close since I lost Smokey.  I am not after any one's man.  I am not after the husbands.  I suddenly became dangerous because I am a widow now.  It just does not make sense to me.  I feel these people pulling away.  These I are not the people I am close to so it does not make such a big dent in my life.  I still have the people that I am close to in my life.  Is anyone else a widow and are you being treated different because you are a widow?  I would be interested in finding out.