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I have family asking me what they can do to help. It feels as though an answer from me begins a place where I become some middle person. Don't want this so I remind people to consult Mom. At this point, she is spry enough to handle saying what her needs are.  Hearing "let us know if you need anything"makes me wonder if people consider the tasks of their own lives and how they need to be accomplished when saying something like this. Such as, cleaning. Laundry. Food store. This is so organized by local communities and serves as a great example of how/what to do something for someone. What people are willing to do or not is really questionable. One perspective for my family is that I have taken care of most things for years. So, guess brothers and sisters plus their children are in the habit of doing nothing. Neither parent is easier than the other for me but Mom runs the show in her way. So, I deal with her most of the time. And we are close to a point. My parents don't trust their other children for some reason and I have never asked why. Not going to either!! I would love to have the help from anyone (family or not)though truthfully. My health needs have taken a toll on me and it is hard to manage simple things on random days. Glad to have meds to help manage but there are side-effects which have changed a lot of my mobility. At some point, when the parents are less able to keep track of things going on around them, I will have help getting to some of the rountine.  Cheers