Paperwork after your loved one dies sucks

The paperwork after your loved one dies sucks.  It is not fair that the person you loved most in the world dies.  The insult to injury is all the paperwork, getting rid of stuff, clearing up accounts or estates, etc.  What is a person worth when they die?  All the assets it seems, what is in their bank account, home, car, clothes and any valuables.  Are we really the some of the things that we have, which seems really shallow to me?  Are we not worth more than the things that we have or own?  When my Smokey died, I went into a state of shock.  Later, I was angry about it all.  There are various stages of grief that we all know.  Smokey was more than all the things he accumulated in his life.  I loved him as he was my soul mate and the love of my life.  There will never be anyone like him on this planet.  No one can replace Smokey.  We are all made unique and one of a kind.  There is no one like us either on this earth.  You can never replace the love of your life that is for sure.  How we heal from this is anyones guess?  It is the hardest thing to do is heal from the loss of the love of your life.  Is it ever possible?  I would really like to know if this is possible.  I find it highly unbelievable at the moment.