OPINIONS WANTED...HELP!!!
WAS JUST ON FACEBOOK AND FOUND OUT THAT MY DAUGHTER HAS A NEW JOB IN MONCTON. THIS IS A CITY ABOUT 35 MINUTES AWAY. SHE IS MOVING OUT OF HER APARTMENT AFTER ONLY 2 MONTHS AND MOVING IN WITH ANOTHER GIRLFRIEND. I DON'T KNOW WHERE THIS GIRL IVES OR ANYTHING. I AM REALLY IN THE DARK HERE. I AM STILL NOT IN COMMUNICATION WITH HER. I STILL HAVE DAYS WHERE I AM DEVASTED BY THE WHOLE MESS. NOW I AM IN A QUANDARY ABOUT EASTER. USUSALLY I GIVE HER CADBURY EGGS AND MONEY. SHOULD I STILL DO THIS? WILL I JUST BE FEEDING INTO THE ENABLING PART? WILL SHE THINK THAT EVRYTHING SHE DID IS OKAY NOW? I AM JUST CONFUSED. I WOULD LIKE A LITTLE INPUT FROM YOU GUYS. HELP!!!!
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Man I hate input. What did she get you for Easter and are you expecting to get it. Has she called you said \"I am sorry things ended the way they did.\" How much have you recovered. Do you want to go backwards. Did she call and say I got a new job and I am moving to a new apartment and here is the address and my new phone #. All us beepers are enablers. Sorry Deb but you asked. Don\'t be mad at me. I would pray for her to be well and succeed in her new job and life. The phone lines and mail run both ways. I don\'t want to hit add. Love you Naomi xo
Honey I know deep in your heart you are still hoping to find the little girl you loved and raised and expected to love you back but someday you really need to come to grips with the fact that your daughter is not going to be that girl.
She is moving on with her life and giving no thought to you or her dad. Let her move and get on with your own life. I would not give her a thing. Not for easter, not for her next birthday (as I recall she could not even be bothered calling her father on his) and not come next Christmas.
If she wants the \"benefits\" of family then she really should be willing to behave like a member of the family and so far she is no where close on that.
I know this is not easy to do, it goes aginst all us women have been raised to believe a mother should do but you have more then enough on your plate. Listen to Naomi, listen to me (I have been there with my own middle daughter and all her issues) put your focus on being healthy, enjoying your friends and real family and loving that dear sweet husband yo\'ve been blessed with.
Your daughter is one big rotten apple in an otherwise pretty tastey barrel, don\'t let her spoil the rest for you. Hugs and loves
I agree with what Naomi and Georgia said. She is an adult and she needs to get a little maturity. She is on her own which is fine, but she has cut you and your husband out of her life right now, I would forget getting her anything for Easter. If by any chance she should come around for Easter, you can be happy to see her but you don\'t need to give her anything. Your love is enough. Enjoy your husband this is really your time in life together to enjoy. One way or the other the nest is empty now, you can devote your time and attention to your husband... you really are very lucky in love, Deb.
i have to agree with everyone else.. she hasnt called you at all. not to see how you are or how you husband is. her parents.. i wouldnt give her anything.. maybe it will be a wake up call for her.. i know it will be hard for you.. because it would be hard for me.. keeping you in my prayers.. hugs ..marie