Older brother with Asperger's Syndrome - hard to deal with

My older brother Don has Asperger's Syndrome.  He is hard to deal.  We spent Christmas Day dinner together.  I have a hard time talking with him.  We always end up in a shouting match. Our deceased mother always encouraged in us to fight and we still carry it forward to now.  I don't like it but the habits seemed to be etched in stone.  I don't know how to break this habit.  I hate it and always feel guilty afterwards.  The big thing is he does not listen which makes it hard to talk with him.  When someone doesn't listen to you, it can make a person become angry.  Its hard to listen all the time, which would be much better.  I just want to cry.  Its a bad habit between us.  I would like to break it but have to think long and hard about it so I can break this bad habit of ours.  Its not good.  Its gets worse when we are worried or stressed about something.  I just want to bury my head in the sand.  Goodness gracious.
From Diane B.

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Truhal
Truhal

I\'m so sorry you\'re going through this. I read somewhere that when a woman argues it causes all sorts of physical problems, while men actually feel better like they\'ve relieved the pressure building up inside them..

I do know how it feels to argue and just feel horrible afterwards. It\'s like that with me and my dad. We\'ve had an arguing relationship all my life. With mom it was so different. We argued only once in the 42 years I had with her.

Take care.
DianeMTB
DianeMTB

My brother Don phoned me this morning and apologized. You are right. He probably felt better afterwards as he was going through some hard stuff himself and still is so this was a pressure releasing valve for him. Me....felt guilty afterwards. Not so much today. Don invited me over to his place for dinner tonight. Ironically, we never argue at his place only at my place. I guess he feels safe at my place. I hope you had a good Christmas yourself and get to relax again. I took my fiber optic tree & poinsettia down. I put them away along with my one Christmas plate. I am leaving the Christmas Cards up until the New Year. The cards make me smile that people still think of me and spend the money to give me a Christmas Card.

All the best from Diane B.