not hate but anxiety.

My brother has some checks he wants me to write for him. I told him he has to pay his own bills but he says some of it is for things for the family from last month.
Now I will be anxious until he shows up and I get rid of him. I don't hate my brother. I think I may have reason to but I don't. That is just me I don't really harbor hate in myself, I don't think it serves any purpose, The same with anger. I feel hate and anger momentarily for something but then I let it go. It serves me no good and has littel purpose other than to make me aware of how strongly I feel about something and so allow me to deal with it sufficiently.
But whenever my brother calls, whenever I see him it causes me anxiety because I feel, think, that he will be frustrating, irritating, needy selfish arrogant and perhaps abusive. He isn't always, but it is well over the majority of the time. And, to my recollection he has never called me to see if he could do something for me. there are a few things he could do for me, generally dealing with auto repair but these are rare and far between and typically they are on his time and at his whim even when it is a near emergency.
For over two years, whenever he rides in my car he tells me that I need to have my fan belt changed because he can hear it slipping and that I should have my tires balanced and he has a friend that can do that. About four months ago he borrowed my car while his was being worked on by his friend and I asked if while he was there he could have the things done to my car that they need. It made sense to me ,he was going there anyway and could get it done without any trouble. Two days later I get my car back, nothing fixed. I asked him and he told me he forgot.
It is always about him even tho he says he is doing something for you. and so every time I have to deal with him it causes anxiety.