Not gone yet friends!
Not gone yet guys!
But tonight I need to write about insincere apologies and stuff.
I hate insincere apologies. I just despise them. For years I have been trying to talk to this relative about a very deep pain that they caused and they either cut me off with the old, 'let sleeping dogs lie', or they give me the 'Well that's not what happened' OR 'I'm sorry but you did this and that to me' or something to that effect. WHAT THE $#@!!!!!!!!!! Why can't folks just bleeping apologize? I hate that I even need validation from them, but I still have some hurt about something that happened.
I can't even continue to write I'm so freaking mad.......
But tonight I need to write about insincere apologies and stuff.
I hate insincere apologies. I just despise them. For years I have been trying to talk to this relative about a very deep pain that they caused and they either cut me off with the old, 'let sleeping dogs lie', or they give me the 'Well that's not what happened' OR 'I'm sorry but you did this and that to me' or something to that effect. WHAT THE $#@!!!!!!!!!! Why can't folks just bleeping apologize? I hate that I even need validation from them, but I still have some hurt about something that happened.
I can't even continue to write I'm so freaking mad.......
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Everybody has their own perspective on things. No two memories are usually the same. People have a tendancy to become very defensive rather than open to apologies. That\'s why so many of us go to therapists to work things out without that third party being there. It\'s a shame it\'s so hard for people to communicate. Big Hugs
I know exactly how you feel. I got so frustrated with a \"friend\" that couldn\'t give me an adequate apology I actually sent him a link \"how to apologize\"...on the chance that he might not know how, LOL. It\'s so easy and natural for me to apologize if I\'ve done something that hurt someone. I don\'t understand why some people just can\'t do it. Let me guess, is the person who can\'t apologize to you a guy? :-) They seem to have a harder time with this than women.
I\'ll be so glad when you are back! You know me and my problems, so when I say it might be better to try to let it go some way, You know I have at least 3 issues I\'m working on that are similar in a way, well one is probably exactly the same thing. I haven\'t managed, but it\'s all I have been able to figure out for me to stop myself from letting it be my problem.. Doesn\'t mean you forget, but leave it far away so it isn\'t in your way. Love you girl!