No contact - Surprise
I just dropped my son off at the house, and was thankful my Ex wasn't there, so I was able to continue no contact, though my heart is in my throat now when I think I might see her. I decided to take a walk down by the river along the canal trail. I got to the parking lot and guess who was there? His bright yellow car and her car with bike racks.
My heart started racing and I was pretty paralyzed for a minute. Do I let them keep me from my favorite place to walk, or do I high-tail it out of there and find somewhere else to walk. The emotions were extreme and were like the worst kind of roller-coaster. In the end, I decided to leave.
I came back to the apartment and the tears came. Do I even let her know I tried to go there and left? I think not. I think the NC should continue, but it is killing me.
My heart started racing and I was pretty paralyzed for a minute. Do I let them keep me from my favorite place to walk, or do I high-tail it out of there and find somewhere else to walk. The emotions were extreme and were like the worst kind of roller-coaster. In the end, I decided to leave.
I came back to the apartment and the tears came. Do I even let her know I tried to go there and left? I think not. I think the NC should continue, but it is killing me.
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That\'s really difficult, man. You did the right thing. Just leave. Do you let her know you were there? NO!!! It is NC from now on.
I know this shit is the worst. We want NC but in some ways we can\'t truly have it. We have kids and have to co-parent. We have places we go where we might run into each other. Hell, I will soon be moving to a place near town and will finally have lots of convenient things - restaurants, stores, etc. But the nearby grocery store is the place where \"new guy\" works!!! That sucks!! I may have to chronicle every time I see the POS and adjust my shopping times around it. It\'s not fucking fair at all, but it may just be what decent people need to do to keep toxic people out of their lives.
Let the tears flow for now, but hang on to NC!!! Best wishes.
Dude man that sucks so effing bad!! I reminds me when my STBX cheated on me I would drive to her apartment and see the guys car... back then I was younger and made a fool of myself. I STRONGLY COMMEND YOU. God Bless you man. You will grow from this and what is over the horizon for you is beautiful. Hang in there, cry it out, get pissed, lift some weights. Keep the NC, let the event change your heart for the better (for you).