New to DS
Hello Everyone,
I'm new to DS and not sure how to start. Guess I can give some background. My divorce will be three years this fall. It was rough, emotional damaging esp to my kids. Part of me is ready to get back into dating..slowly. I have dated a little in the last two years but nobody really interests me and that may be my fear of getting hurt and also my standards are so high to help protect me. I am not a traditional woman by any means and love adventure, action, and the outdoors. There are men who feel intimated/threatened by me for that. Obviously those men are not of interest to me either but I find I am left out of the "dating scene" because of my nontraditional lifestyle. Being raised by my dad and older brother had a great influence on me I guess. So as I approach my three year healing mark, I wonder how I will fit in by then, or if I will. While it isn't necessary to have a man in my life because I am happy single, I don't want to shut that option out just because I was hurt before. I have forgiven myself for choosing the wrong type of guy, abusive. I will have to see how much I trust myself to choose a healthy partner and I'm unsure how that will go of course. I joined this support group because maybe someone can relate to my situation, being different, not fitting in, and yet wanting to love again at some point if it can happen and having no real clue how to do that.
I'm new to DS and not sure how to start. Guess I can give some background. My divorce will be three years this fall. It was rough, emotional damaging esp to my kids. Part of me is ready to get back into dating..slowly. I have dated a little in the last two years but nobody really interests me and that may be my fear of getting hurt and also my standards are so high to help protect me. I am not a traditional woman by any means and love adventure, action, and the outdoors. There are men who feel intimated/threatened by me for that. Obviously those men are not of interest to me either but I find I am left out of the "dating scene" because of my nontraditional lifestyle. Being raised by my dad and older brother had a great influence on me I guess. So as I approach my three year healing mark, I wonder how I will fit in by then, or if I will. While it isn't necessary to have a man in my life because I am happy single, I don't want to shut that option out just because I was hurt before. I have forgiven myself for choosing the wrong type of guy, abusive. I will have to see how much I trust myself to choose a healthy partner and I'm unsure how that will go of course. I joined this support group because maybe someone can relate to my situation, being different, not fitting in, and yet wanting to love again at some point if it can happen and having no real clue how to do that.
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