new ploy...
So today i had my reiki session. It was interesting, like watching a movie in my mind with the different parts of the body she was positioned at. It's my first so I have nothing to compare it to. My girlfriend got massage, acupunture massage and reiki all together because the lady thought it was more useful for her. My friend was in a car accident when she was younger and never had anything like this done to her. She was pleased with it. I was hoping the reiki would help but the lady said I seem too tense. I tried to breathe as deep as I could, breathing out negative breathing in positive. She said I seemed to be holding onto things I need to let go and advised I do hypnotherapy.
Anywho, tonight I got another text msg from douchbag. He stated that he respects that I didn't want to talk but think he's deserves an answer to why I did it. He didn't really say exactly what he deserved an answer to but I am guessing it had to deal with one of his friends kissing me as if I hadn't already explained that 3 months ago by phone and by email. I know it's another manipulation technique as in to get me upset about something to defend myself in some way. Just deleted it like the others and poured me a drink. It got me riled up but being that I'm still at my friends place they just reminded me how he's an "ignorant immature leprechaun" and it doesn't matter what he thinks. So glad I am here. Just another day down.
Am planning on taking another girlfriend to get massages next week sometime. I bought her a kindle with my new winnings (early christmas present) and she doesn't know about either, excited to be able to bring a little joy to her, she struggles a lot with school and work. The text above put a small damper on my evening. We're planning a trip to the Coyote Ugly bar in Austin tomorrow, just to say we've been there, neither of us are big drinkers so I am hoping for a good time. Hope all is well out there with everyone.
Anywho, tonight I got another text msg from douchbag. He stated that he respects that I didn't want to talk but think he's deserves an answer to why I did it. He didn't really say exactly what he deserved an answer to but I am guessing it had to deal with one of his friends kissing me as if I hadn't already explained that 3 months ago by phone and by email. I know it's another manipulation technique as in to get me upset about something to defend myself in some way. Just deleted it like the others and poured me a drink. It got me riled up but being that I'm still at my friends place they just reminded me how he's an "ignorant immature leprechaun" and it doesn't matter what he thinks. So glad I am here. Just another day down.
Am planning on taking another girlfriend to get massages next week sometime. I bought her a kindle with my new winnings (early christmas present) and she doesn't know about either, excited to be able to bring a little joy to her, she struggles a lot with school and work. The text above put a small damper on my evening. We're planning a trip to the Coyote Ugly bar in Austin tomorrow, just to say we've been there, neither of us are big drinkers so I am hoping for a good time. Hope all is well out there with everyone.
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The latest text is just another attempt at getting a response. The \"aim of the game\" to these guys is to keep you engaged. They will keep you engaged at all costs. So when one tactic doesn\'t work, they will try another. Mine tried all sorts when I finally went no contact. From the pleasant \"let\'s talk about things and be friends\", to threats to just turn up on my doorstep, to attempts at reverse psychology, to questions about why I was \"doing this to our son\". Anything and everything to get a response. And yes, sometimes it really was hard not to respond, but I didn\'t, and eventually he did just give up. About 7 months later.
Just try not to let his crap get to you. You don\'t owe him anything. You tried to explain everything back when there was a reason to do so, and he refused to hear you. He wouldn\'t hear you now either, because the other thing with these guys is that if you have any contact with them at all, what they hear is \"I still love you and I want you in my life\". Even if the actual words used were \"F*** off and die, douchebag\".\'
Keep on keeping on - you are doing great.
Thanks livndadrem. yes I figure it\'s another ploy, just hit delete and kept on going for the night. Big plans for tomorrow as in Austin, Tx so I need to get some sleep. Thanks so much for the support. :) Hope your doing well!!
You seem so strong. Do you feel validation (as in you are not crazy) or annoyance at his persistence? Enjoy your trip!
Creo--- A little bit of both. Friends are telling me to block his number or change mine but I think it\'s adding more determination to me that he\'s not really listening to me and at the same time like 11 calls in a 30 min span the other day was annoying. If I didn\'t answer the first time, why keep calling even from different numbers to talk and then not even leave a msg. Thanks and I am enjoying the trip so far. :)