New little Rented Room
I am here less than a month and my new housemate, a 66 year old woman freaked out at me for resting in my bed everyday and wants me to unpack my boxes NOW! She wants them out of my room. Dear Lord I refuse to feed into an argument. I told her how ill I was before I moved in.
Apparently she is bipolar and not on any medication and I don't detect GOD in her way of life at all. I know everything happens for a reason but I can't do drama or stress, especially with cancer added to the mix.
I had to breathe deeply and pray, which calmed me down. This is just a stepping stone to move to Arizona, however I need to stay here for a year or less to save enough to move on my fixed income. I pray I don't deal with her mood swings too often. She is the type of person that is never happy with what I may or may not do. Just what I need. I haven't had a good day since radiation and feel incredibly weak and exhausted.
Doing all this alone with no support from anyone is very difficult. If I wasn't a Spiritual Warrior I would give up on life altogether. But for the Grace of GOD I continue as best as possible and it's never good enough for those around me or my family. This gets so old and if she pushes me too hard then she will get a piece of me, that she won't like at all. I will calmly tell her to get her medications because I refuse to deal with her moods.
Gee she was so sweet and kind before I moved in and the first two weeks. I have all my food outside in laundry room old refrigerator, that wasn't what I was told it had to be. Thank God I paid to have my ac put in today which I bought a month ago. It was hot in here. I really don't mind the small room. I just don't appreciate anyone freaking out on me because I am not doing my room the way she wants fast enough. She needs to mind her own business.
Geeeezzzz she just knocked on my door with another complaint!!!!
I need peace and the ability to rest as much as I can to build strength. I can't pick up and move now. I know everything happens for a reason, but I ask God to slow down on the lessons presently. I am so trustworthy and need to practice my Alanon way of life here, as well as, be Silent and not take anything personal.
I'll pray for this woman and let go. My health and strength is too important for me to give into another's emotional or mental illness. I tend to be sensitive most often due to the weakened state of CFS. I am with God and God is with me! Yes! Stay on my path and relationship with God and I will have all the armor I need to get by and move to Arizona....
I love you dear DS sisters and brothers.
Blessings of Healing
Apparently she is bipolar and not on any medication and I don't detect GOD in her way of life at all. I know everything happens for a reason but I can't do drama or stress, especially with cancer added to the mix.
I had to breathe deeply and pray, which calmed me down. This is just a stepping stone to move to Arizona, however I need to stay here for a year or less to save enough to move on my fixed income. I pray I don't deal with her mood swings too often. She is the type of person that is never happy with what I may or may not do. Just what I need. I haven't had a good day since radiation and feel incredibly weak and exhausted.
Doing all this alone with no support from anyone is very difficult. If I wasn't a Spiritual Warrior I would give up on life altogether. But for the Grace of GOD I continue as best as possible and it's never good enough for those around me or my family. This gets so old and if she pushes me too hard then she will get a piece of me, that she won't like at all. I will calmly tell her to get her medications because I refuse to deal with her moods.
Gee she was so sweet and kind before I moved in and the first two weeks. I have all my food outside in laundry room old refrigerator, that wasn't what I was told it had to be. Thank God I paid to have my ac put in today which I bought a month ago. It was hot in here. I really don't mind the small room. I just don't appreciate anyone freaking out on me because I am not doing my room the way she wants fast enough. She needs to mind her own business.
Geeeezzzz she just knocked on my door with another complaint!!!!
I need peace and the ability to rest as much as I can to build strength. I can't pick up and move now. I know everything happens for a reason, but I ask God to slow down on the lessons presently. I am so trustworthy and need to practice my Alanon way of life here, as well as, be Silent and not take anything personal.
I'll pray for this woman and let go. My health and strength is too important for me to give into another's emotional or mental illness. I tend to be sensitive most often due to the weakened state of CFS. I am with God and God is with me! Yes! Stay on my path and relationship with God and I will have all the armor I need to get by and move to Arizona....
I love you dear DS sisters and brothers.
Blessings of Healing
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Yikes! That sounds really terrible! I have often thought that one of the worst things would be to have to live with someone you can\'t stand. I think you are right to just keep your peace. That peace is hard-fought, so you can\'t let it go. I\'m so sorry you are going through this. I\'m sure you are exhausted. Rest as best you can. Stay strong, warrior sister. Much love. Heather.
Repeat after me: \"Not my circus, not my monkeys.\" Let her find her own way, as we all must.
For you, Peace, Strength, Patience, much Love and many Blessings.
I\'m really upset about this. After all you have been through and are still having to handle, it\'s not what you need.I don\'t think this is a good place for you to be.You have only been there a short while and already you are having all this negative energy coming at you . That\'s not going to help your healing journey.Have you paid money in advance or is it just on a weekly casual basis? Did you have to pay any sort of bond? Is there some way out of this place? Is it possible to look for somewhere else? I know you are very spiritual and accepting, but we all know that while we do accept other people\'s imperfections and different levels of consciousness, still we are always advised to disassociate with those who disturb our consciousness.This woman is not going to change and obviously doesn\'t even want to understand how severe your physical condition is. There has to be a way out of this.This is not the place you need to be in my dear friend.How did you physically move there? I don\'t think you have a car do you?.Please fill me in on the whole picture.I want you to heal and feel loved and understood in your environment. I strongly feel there will be a way to remedy this difficult situation.Where there\'s a will there\'s a way.I am so frustrated that I am so far away from you.You are an absolute treasure and I feel protective of you. I know you are so weak and probably can\'t even bare the thought of moving but I feel in my heart you need to. Love and all strength my warrior soul sister. Please reply.xo
Oh shoot! Isn\'t this the way it always goes??? We struggle and work and try to please, and push ourselves to the max, and then some idiot stands in our path, with their healthy selves and complains about us. This may not sound very Christian-like, but I should like to come there and slap her upside the head.
Would that be a problem????
Why must some people be so downright mean! I know she knows you have physical problems. She knows you are laying down because you don\'t feel well, yet she makes demands. These is one of dem dere times where you have to stand up for yourself, and remind her that she knows you are disabled, that you are doing the best you can, and for her to please not make things more difficult for absolutely no reason at all. Then leave it to God!! Be nice, (as I\'m sure you are) but sometimes being nice to these beasts gets them to feel the guilt from their behavior towards a good soul, and they calm down and grow up.
Hope I don\'t have to come over there.......
Gentle hugs, Debra! xo
wow, I just happened across your journal, and if I may offer a suggestion, is it possible to hang a sign on your door \"resting from radiation treatment please respect my privacy during this healing time\" I thank u for your consideration (sign name) I have attached a note pad for your convenience to leave any important msgs.
U cant be held captive by her emotional drama, u need positivity, your body needs to heal. (for the record I have a fan in a box outside my door to block out any noise from the woman yelling constantly downstairs- I also purchased an official \'closed \' sign on my door nob:) theres a clock on it and u can move the hands from this time to that, best wishes to u, do not engage with the women- keep things at the barest minimum, not even pleasantries, it just leaves an opening for her complaints, if she feels uncomfortable, good, she should;) u don\'t owe anyone more than that what u owe to yourself. xoxox
Hi Cachetteen,
Thank you dearly for your constructive comments. I agree with the sign at my door. I am so openly kind to others and need to discriminate more often. I continue to be pleasant to my housemate and haven\'t set any really good boundaries yet.
She apologized to me, however I know this won\'t be the end of her comments or complaints. She has also been extremely polite, but I must protect myself from future attacks. I just can\'t do drama at all. I sent you a friend request and hope to get to know each other better.
Thank you for your compassion and advice dear DS Sister.
Gentle Hugs,
Debra
theres a saying, believe what ppl do not what they say- Im sure she can be nice ( as all manipulative ppl are) but she is also invasive, with ppl like that u really need to set clear cut boundaries, especially given that u have a sensitive nature and are in a healing phase, u don\'t need unnecessary stress in your life, the fact that u were righting this journal and then shes knocking on your door to complain- I just wanted to climb through the computer and go answer that door for u!;) haha:) the less time u spend near her the better for u, u will not change her for the better, but she may bring u down. The cons outweigh the pros. Her apologizing is equivalent to a hunter leaving food for its prey-- shes keeping u close so she can have control. Do not trust her. Not everyone u meet is as good as u xoxooxo