Need Your Advice
Friends,
I was thinking about buying a flight to see my ex next month. I wouldn't tell him in advance that I was flying there. It would be more of a gamble. My plan is to fly out, ask him to meet me somewhere, and we can have one last talk (if it truly is over). By August it would be almost 3 months. I know this idea is incredibly selfish, but I feel it is worth a try. I can't just let go without putting up a fight. Thoughts?
WM
I was thinking about buying a flight to see my ex next month. I wouldn't tell him in advance that I was flying there. It would be more of a gamble. My plan is to fly out, ask him to meet me somewhere, and we can have one last talk (if it truly is over). By August it would be almost 3 months. I know this idea is incredibly selfish, but I feel it is worth a try. I can't just let go without putting up a fight. Thoughts?
WM
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WM, don\'t do it dear.
Give him some time and SPACE.
If he does come and see you, it would only make him more resentful at you.
Big hugs.
Also WM, if he don\'t want to see you and you force him out of guilt to see you, you would NOT want to hear the things he has to say to you.
Big hugs.
WM I\'m actually headed to work all day now....but I saw this. DF is absolutely correct. Please don\'t do this. Please know I KNOW it\'s hard, but this will come across you are stalking him, needy, desperate all the things men run even further.
I don\'t remember your entire story, but sometimes the best thing to do is work on you!
Lil Sis, that is a recipe for disaster, and truly getting your feelings hurt. If you truly want to go talk to him, call him and ask if he would be ok with you coming and make it a date. That way you dont appear to be stalking and he has time to think about what he wants to say to you. But be prepared he is still very very hurt. Be blessed.
Thanks everyone for your advice. I guess long distance relationships are next to impossible to be saved. I will call him next month, ask him his final decision, and let go if it is what I think it is.