Narcissists cannot love...

If you love only in order to be loved back - this is narcissistic love. Loving someone is not dependent upon emotional reciprocity. If your child stopped loving you - you do not stop loving him. You simply cannot NOT love him. The same applies to narcissists. They are incapable of loving. Does this render you incapable... of loving them? If your answer is positive, then how different from them are you really?

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Caramel33
Caramel33

Take care of yourself, my dear. Like you, I have always tried to find the best in everyone and struggle with the cruelties. The hardest thing is to acknowledge reality- that it isn\'t a perfect world full of perfect people. Which doesn\'t mean that love isn\'t there, and that you shouldn\'t have love for all- but nowadays I try and give my heart to those with a strong sense of ethics, who I know will treat it well. Which doesn\'t mean I have ill feelings towards others- but I try to realise that they have to find their own answers in life. I have been learning Buddhist meditation, and have found it very helpful. We just have to keep trying to get through the day, don\'t we? Take care of yourself- you are a strong, loving woman.
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deleted_user

Both of you have given me insight into my own situation. Thank you both for sharing. Timmy