My World has changed completely in the last month...

I finally decided to end my friendship with my childhood best friend/cousin.... 24 years.... she had gone through almost mirrored events in her life like I had gone through when I was young.... she was the one that knew 95% of everything that had happened to me.... details that no one but, myself knew. Since she was young she has been jealous of me... simplest of things. I didn't understand why when she knew what she knew... how could you be jealous of your own cousin... i live with my abuser for 19 years... she lived with her aunt uncle grandma and father.... i'd take a paddling to the butt because I talking back to my father over my stepfather coming in my room every morning for 2 years... She never really cared what I went through I now realize. It's sad but, true. I'm sad that it ended the way it did. Every time we had moments of not seeing or speaking to each other it was all her choice. Be it, her jealously of me being pregnant cause she cannot... due to lack of funds... even though it was my first child and she already had a 2 year old... jealous of my closeness with my boyfriend yet she was on her fourth while I was still with my first boyfriend. Mad that we offered a job application to one of her boyfriends & she didn't want to be embarrassed if he failed.... all theses insecurities would lead to deleting me and changing her phone number.... yet 6 months or a year or most recently 2 years of time would go by and she would be the one to message me... apologize and ask for my forgiveness... we started to talk and see each other in April 2011 after the man she met online left her for another woman, getting pregnant week one after only knowing him for 2 weeks by phone, getting married month four, getting cheated on year one and divorced 18 months in.... She contacts me and wants my friendship. To be my family again. What do I do....? I act like her evil ways over the two year break never happen. But, sadly, she still had her insecurities.... her abuse makes her want men, need men, she cannot be without a man for long or she is not happy with life. They can ignore her, abuse her, but as long as she can click the box on her status as in a relationship she's happy and mean to me and everyone else in her life. She is a mean person that if you do not give the opinion she wants she will be vindictive and childish. I felt that I was being drained over the last 10 month. I had just found peace after 2 years of her out of my life.... then she came back???!!! Of the 10 months she had a "boyfriend" for 6 months in which she messaged me daily nightly of her paranoia of her thinking he was cheating, didn't want her, or her being lonely and ignored.... I told her I was fed up with it to get rid of him if she could not handle it. That she was a child of abuse and she will always have the feeling that she needed to be loved. That she needed to be alone for a year to find herself. To make peace with her past and grow up! I told her she needed to take care of her daughters and stop trolling for men online and bringing them home. That this man has ignored her for 6 months unless he wanted something from her. She didn't like it and snapped at me.... so, I finally said I'm done. That I didn't agree with her life's choices. That she was going to get her two young daughter hurt. That they had no choice in what man was brought to their home. I could not condone the illness she possessed nor could I allow it in my life. That I am trying to find peace with my own demons and my own childhood trauma. That I have a family that is ultimately perfect for last 8 years.... that I smile now. I smile because I'm loved and finally cared for by a good man that is trustworthy, caring, loving, and just plain perfect. I may not have my abuser in jail. He is enjoying his life and that's sad.... but, why am I going to allow him to have a great life and me not. I deserve to have a wonderfully happy life. I've learned that justice can be in my own heart/mind maybe not in the judicial system but, I pointed my finger, told my story, he knows who he is... certain people know that he is a child molester.... but, now I am free of him and free of my childhood best friend/cousin. She chose to treat my words like a child. Post horrible things online and tell people horrible stories and cry wolf... in the end the boyfriend left her the same day she deleted me... cause he saw how she was.... so, now she even blames that on me as well. Even though it was her own status updates and blogs in her writing that made his decision to dump her. Maybe now she can give her children some attention but, doubtful!