My wife texted me a photo
Today, I was making arrangements to set aside time for my first DivorceCare meeting this evening. In the middle of that I received a text message from my wife. The message had no words. I was a simple photo of her hand. She was wearing her engagement ring and wedding band for the first time since she told me she wanted a trial separation. I'm speechless and my hope is racing. I'm still confused. I will not make any assumptions. I'm reluctant to believe this traumatic ordeal is over. But this was a very nice surprise.
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That is definitely a step in the right direction. I think you are right to not think your ordeal is over though. You may even still want to do to your meeting. Going does not mean you want a divorce. May still help you get more clarity to save your marriage. I really am happy for you. Take it one day at a time. Treat your relationship with caution and tenderness as it is healing right now. Obviously you are doing the right things for your situation. Keep being the man you are being. Good luck!
I am wanting to do divorce care to. I am the type that needs to know what\'s going on I would ask. Don\'t allow her to go back and fourth that\'s not fair to you. I hope for your sake it works out.
Thank you, ladies, for the kind words and advice. I did miss my meeting but we had a great evening together. During that time, I brought up the separation, wanting some answers. She is really conflicted and doesn\'t want to commit either way. She said she is still \"here\" as in she hasn\'t left yet. Everything she talked to me about as we spent time together last night was as if we are together, but there were mentions of her not knowing about the future. I\'m trying to live in the moment and enjoy her now, but my thoughts and fears always go back to that unknown future. Why can\'t the commitment be a good thing? Something that gives her joy and comfort instead of dread and fear? I feel that there is nothing I can do to help with this and I feel so helpless. I am hopeful that her new job will build her self esteem and feelings of worth as she achieves some kind of success. Of course MY insecurities remind me she could be tempted by the attention from another man, but she has NEVER given me reason to believe this could happen. My feeling secure in this relationship or in mending it eludes me.