My new pissy! :)
Something I've discovered since working on my new boundaries and patterns in my life....I have this new pissy! And no, it's not all bad. I'm seeing it, really, as a little more piss and vinegar!!
I just find that things I wouldn't notice or would let go or just float by in the past, make me feel a wee bit pissy these days. I'm still nice and sweet and not all things deserve to be addressed or made a big deal of, but I think it's good that I'm allowing myself to feel pissy about them, vent to those close to me and at least notice them!!
My parents (with the kids and I helping) decided to have a family gathering this 4th. My parents and I spent at least $100 on food and $100 on fireworks, plus our time etc. in setting up, making it happen and cleaning up. I talk a lot about my cousin here and we have always been closer like sisters. Some things, yes, are a little like sibling stuff, some are just differences, but some things...I've come discover, she oversteps in my opinion. So, she brings herself, her sister and all their kids (along with a girlfriend of her son) and doesn't have a dime and even asks me if I would mind picking her up some cigarettes, which I do and don't mind.
However, her son's girlfriend gave them/brought a big bag of bigger fireworks. About time to start setting off the pretty stuff, I hear my cousin talking to her sister. Her sister is telling her that we should just set them all off here because it will be after shooting curfew by the time they drive home and we already have a safe set up and good place to shoot them. Then ten minutes later, I come across my cousin's 10-year-old behind a bush opening this box of the big double balls that probably cost $50 by itself, not to mention, she is unraveling it all and I think this requires supervision. So, I mention it. And her daughter ignores me, so I mention to the group at large and my cousin ends up stopping her and getting her to sit down (due to her fit and defiance over the matter). And yes, I hate getting someone's kid in trouble...and it's not my money, but sheesh, this is something that can take a head off, I think it needs adult supervision!! Her daughter ended up sitting to the side and pouting the remainder of the evening. We finish up shooting a few big balls.
Then as they're leaving, I hear my cousin whispering to her son asking him if he let us shoot off all those big balls. I don't know, this just kinda irked me. This is my thought....if you have stuff you want to save for at your house (even though it's not really yours and you didn't purchase it) that's fine, but sort it out beforehand or don't bring it over to our display. Secondly, all this whispering weirdness about not shooting the good stuff over here is just plain ass rude. And thirdly, show a little appreciation for those that just spent money giving you a 4th celebration in the first place (especially those like me who had to pull nails to afford it in the first place)!!!!
Was it a big enough deal to call her out and cause drama at a fun 4th gathering of family, no, not really. Was it enough that the new me noticed and vented to those close to me and here, yes...it was and I will remember it the next time I'm planning a get together and being nice enough to buy a pack of cigarettes, provide food and whatever else!!
The good part is that I'm happy with the new me for seeing the crossing of my boundaries/values and I am 100% pleased that my kids showed great behavior, respect towards others and even did a great job helping with the clean up and not such good jobs afterwards without a single comment and a good attitude. I may do my best to provide them even with things I can't afford when I can, but they have manners, respect and certainly no ignoring what they are told or asked to do, pouting sessions or whining about the less fun jobs at hand!!!!
I just find that things I wouldn't notice or would let go or just float by in the past, make me feel a wee bit pissy these days. I'm still nice and sweet and not all things deserve to be addressed or made a big deal of, but I think it's good that I'm allowing myself to feel pissy about them, vent to those close to me and at least notice them!!
My parents (with the kids and I helping) decided to have a family gathering this 4th. My parents and I spent at least $100 on food and $100 on fireworks, plus our time etc. in setting up, making it happen and cleaning up. I talk a lot about my cousin here and we have always been closer like sisters. Some things, yes, are a little like sibling stuff, some are just differences, but some things...I've come discover, she oversteps in my opinion. So, she brings herself, her sister and all their kids (along with a girlfriend of her son) and doesn't have a dime and even asks me if I would mind picking her up some cigarettes, which I do and don't mind.
However, her son's girlfriend gave them/brought a big bag of bigger fireworks. About time to start setting off the pretty stuff, I hear my cousin talking to her sister. Her sister is telling her that we should just set them all off here because it will be after shooting curfew by the time they drive home and we already have a safe set up and good place to shoot them. Then ten minutes later, I come across my cousin's 10-year-old behind a bush opening this box of the big double balls that probably cost $50 by itself, not to mention, she is unraveling it all and I think this requires supervision. So, I mention it. And her daughter ignores me, so I mention to the group at large and my cousin ends up stopping her and getting her to sit down (due to her fit and defiance over the matter). And yes, I hate getting someone's kid in trouble...and it's not my money, but sheesh, this is something that can take a head off, I think it needs adult supervision!! Her daughter ended up sitting to the side and pouting the remainder of the evening. We finish up shooting a few big balls.
Then as they're leaving, I hear my cousin whispering to her son asking him if he let us shoot off all those big balls. I don't know, this just kinda irked me. This is my thought....if you have stuff you want to save for at your house (even though it's not really yours and you didn't purchase it) that's fine, but sort it out beforehand or don't bring it over to our display. Secondly, all this whispering weirdness about not shooting the good stuff over here is just plain ass rude. And thirdly, show a little appreciation for those that just spent money giving you a 4th celebration in the first place (especially those like me who had to pull nails to afford it in the first place)!!!!
Was it a big enough deal to call her out and cause drama at a fun 4th gathering of family, no, not really. Was it enough that the new me noticed and vented to those close to me and here, yes...it was and I will remember it the next time I'm planning a get together and being nice enough to buy a pack of cigarettes, provide food and whatever else!!
The good part is that I'm happy with the new me for seeing the crossing of my boundaries/values and I am 100% pleased that my kids showed great behavior, respect towards others and even did a great job helping with the clean up and not such good jobs afterwards without a single comment and a good attitude. I may do my best to provide them even with things I can't afford when I can, but they have manners, respect and certainly no ignoring what they are told or asked to do, pouting sessions or whining about the less fun jobs at hand!!!!
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