My mom

My mom finally calls me today. After ignoring me for more than a week. Guess she is depressed. She said she is tired. She frantically texts and calls me about cat medication. Why? Cause all she cares about is stupid money. Go hug, kiss, love your money. I gauruntee it won't love you back. The cat is dying. And my dad. Both to cancer. Something happened to a fax that was supposed to go out and my mom who they probably make over $5 k a month is complaining about the $60 to $80 for one week -two weeks of pain meds for the cat while the mail order gets sorted out which is much much cheaper. This is why I didn't want to keep the cat alive, I couldn't afford his pain meds and he can't even walk from the huge tumor in his leg. So if she chooses to keep him alive then she needs to suck it up and pay for his meds. 

I don't know what to do for her. How to help them. They are both crazy and irrational.Dont want to get help yet feel horrible. Boy that sounds rational. When I try to help or force a hand then I get push back. Fine you guys are adults go make these wonderful wise decisions. 

I will go get help for myself. Alanon and caregiver support group here. I feel better when I block out their craziness. If they want to do something helpful or good for themselves I'm here to support them 100%. If they are going to sit there and drown in their depression yet don't want help and give me push back, sorry can't help ya. 

I don't have the ability to force anyone to do anything they don't want.