My brother undermines everything everyone else is doing.
I hae spent months trying to get my sister to do a little more for herself. I am not asking her to do anything difficult only little things that will help her to take a bit of more responsability for herself and get her form sitting around doing nothing. Some of the things are watering her lawn. She only needs to put the sprinkler i nthe middle of the yard and turn the water on and off. Take out the trash. She only has half sized kitechne trash cans which need to be emptied once every other day or so. Walk her dog twice a day so that it won't crap in the house, clean her kitty box and dump the litter in the trash outside once eveyr other day, make her own sack lunch for her day trips she takes to a program where she does art projects. Simple things that once she got used to doing them would not even occur to her to be ay work at all after she got sued to them.
I have been trying for these things for over a year and she does them once in a while usually only when I ask or mention it because when my brother visits her he does these things for her. He won't get on track with everyone else and help her to learn to help herslef inctead he does it for her and tells her that the girls that come to help her should be doing these things. The girls aren't there to do these things or aren't there at the right times to do them and she, my sister needs to learn to do these things foerr herself.
It is infuriating that he completely ruins all the work everyone else is doing to try and get her to be more self sufficient by undermining these simple chores we are tyring to get her to do. He keeps her unresponsable and unwilling to do for herself when she knows that once every other day or so he wil lcome and do it for her. These are all easy things others cna do for her but they are also simple things she can do for herslef and needs to learn to do for herself in order to be more responsable and self sufficient and not a burden or drain on everyone else. He teaches her to be lazy and irrisponsable and to take advantage of others.
Then to top it off he wil lcall me and tel lme all these things he thinks we should be doing for her instead of getting her to do them for herself. He expects that we are all supposed to follow his lead and see that others do these simple things for her because he finds that they are not getting done without him.
They are not getting done because we are all trying to get her to do them and she won't do them because she knows that if she leaves them until he visits he will do them.
She is still wanting to get a court order restraining order to stop him form being able to come over whenever he wants. I have told her that if she does he wil lnot be able to come over and do all these little things for her anymore and she says she doen'st need him to do it and she is getting it. I did not think it was a good idea for her to do this but now I am starting to think that maybe if she stops him form coming over all the time maybe she will finally start to do her own chores since he won't be coming over to do them.
I am so tired of my brother interferring with oru lives trying to make them what he thinks they should be and disregarding what everyone else may think or is trying to do. He never listens to any of us or works with us he just does his own thing and expects us all to do what he says. My sister goes along with much of it because it means she doen 'st have to do any kind of work even simple houshold tasks such as I have mentioned. The sooner he stops coming over the sooner she wil lbegin to start learning to do more for herself and become more self sufficient and responsable. She may not be mentally a completly grown up adult but she is not a three year old unable to do alnything at all for her self like my brother treats her and how she acts around him so that he will continue to do things for her even tho she knows she cna and should do more.
I have been trying for these things for over a year and she does them once in a while usually only when I ask or mention it because when my brother visits her he does these things for her. He won't get on track with everyone else and help her to learn to help herslef inctead he does it for her and tells her that the girls that come to help her should be doing these things. The girls aren't there to do these things or aren't there at the right times to do them and she, my sister needs to learn to do these things foerr herself.
It is infuriating that he completely ruins all the work everyone else is doing to try and get her to be more self sufficient by undermining these simple chores we are tyring to get her to do. He keeps her unresponsable and unwilling to do for herself when she knows that once every other day or so he wil lcome and do it for her. These are all easy things others cna do for her but they are also simple things she can do for herslef and needs to learn to do for herself in order to be more responsable and self sufficient and not a burden or drain on everyone else. He teaches her to be lazy and irrisponsable and to take advantage of others.
Then to top it off he wil lcall me and tel lme all these things he thinks we should be doing for her instead of getting her to do them for herself. He expects that we are all supposed to follow his lead and see that others do these simple things for her because he finds that they are not getting done without him.
They are not getting done because we are all trying to get her to do them and she won't do them because she knows that if she leaves them until he visits he will do them.
She is still wanting to get a court order restraining order to stop him form being able to come over whenever he wants. I have told her that if she does he wil lnot be able to come over and do all these little things for her anymore and she says she doen'st need him to do it and she is getting it. I did not think it was a good idea for her to do this but now I am starting to think that maybe if she stops him form coming over all the time maybe she will finally start to do her own chores since he won't be coming over to do them.
I am so tired of my brother interferring with oru lives trying to make them what he thinks they should be and disregarding what everyone else may think or is trying to do. He never listens to any of us or works with us he just does his own thing and expects us all to do what he says. My sister goes along with much of it because it means she doen 'st have to do any kind of work even simple houshold tasks such as I have mentioned. The sooner he stops coming over the sooner she wil lbegin to start learning to do more for herself and become more self sufficient and responsable. She may not be mentally a completly grown up adult but she is not a three year old unable to do alnything at all for her self like my brother treats her and how she acts around him so that he will continue to do things for her even tho she knows she cna and should do more.
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