My brother is starting to crash.
I see my brother starting to lose the control he has over my family. My dad is out of his control and my brother and I have been told he is doing well there but when my brother is there he is al disturbed and my brother says he is pleading with him and crying and saying he wants to be taken out of there. The staff at the home and others I trust have told me he seem to be happier and doing well.
My sister is learning to live more on her own, take more care of herself and will be getting more care and learn to be more independent now that my father, mother and my brother are no longer in their house. She has told my brother she doesn't want him to come over anymore. She tells people she is afraid of him and that he is mean and always yelling at her and she is afraid he will hit her. I believe she thinks this way tho I do not know he would ever hit her. But he is larger and angry and yells and is scary to her. So he is being kept form going over and taking whatever he wants form my parents house, and going there whenever he wants even tho she has asked him not to.
My mother is starting to tell my brother that he will have to pay his own bills. She is still letting him live in a house rent free and will still give him the rent form another house to live on but will not pay any of his bills. He doesn't hear it, or ignores it but realizes it is coming, He is getting a sweet deal but wants more.
I can see it all coming together and him losing all control of what was once his world and having to live like everyone else even if the money and home is still given to him. It means he can't party, travel, vacation, go to games and aford his drugs like he had been and so his world is crashing down.
I hope and pray that he learns and doesn't hurt anyone but he has had a free ride (and is still getting one) for long enough and needs to realize and learn to live with it.
My sister is learning to live more on her own, take more care of herself and will be getting more care and learn to be more independent now that my father, mother and my brother are no longer in their house. She has told my brother she doesn't want him to come over anymore. She tells people she is afraid of him and that he is mean and always yelling at her and she is afraid he will hit her. I believe she thinks this way tho I do not know he would ever hit her. But he is larger and angry and yells and is scary to her. So he is being kept form going over and taking whatever he wants form my parents house, and going there whenever he wants even tho she has asked him not to.
My mother is starting to tell my brother that he will have to pay his own bills. She is still letting him live in a house rent free and will still give him the rent form another house to live on but will not pay any of his bills. He doesn't hear it, or ignores it but realizes it is coming, He is getting a sweet deal but wants more.
I can see it all coming together and him losing all control of what was once his world and having to live like everyone else even if the money and home is still given to him. It means he can't party, travel, vacation, go to games and aford his drugs like he had been and so his world is crashing down.
I hope and pray that he learns and doesn't hurt anyone but he has had a free ride (and is still getting one) for long enough and needs to realize and learn to live with it.
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Well, I hope that crash may wake him up to what he needs to do and it wont bring any of you down with him
So far it has been a bit harsh but no one is bleeding. He has taken it better than I thought but who knows if he can make it. My mother told him he has to start paying his own bills but can stay in the house rent free and also live off the rent form the other house he will one day inherit if all goes well.
My brother doesn\'t think that is enough but it is quite a bit more than I have. He wants her to pay his bills and give him $20 a day for one more month while he gets a job.
Good Luck, brother mine, I hope you can get a job. We live in one of the most difficult places to find work in the USA right now, California\'s central valley. But if it is that easy, why hasn\'t he done it before now. Obviously because he hasn\'t wanted to work and wanted to live off my parents even though he was ever all over me for getting a job and paying for myself all this time.
My big, tough brother started crying when he was told he has to grow up and pay for himself even with the rent of the one house and living rent free. He yelled at my mother saying she had deserted him. I\'d like to be deserted in such a way.