My 60th Birthday

I have almost made it thru another "first". After a wonderful surprise dinner party last night hosted by my daughters and their spouses, I worked 10 hours today, my actual birthday.
The family I was working with made me pancakes for breakfast and a yummy orange chiffon birthday cake, complete with candles. I wore my "60" necklace from last night and as soon as I got home tonight I put my "60" tiara on!. I am the only one here, and I am determined to stay up til after midnight.
I saw a penny on the floor today where I was working, yes, it was my beloved Pat checking in with me.
We had a huge 60th birthday party for Pat. I hired a company to put pink flamingos all over the yard and we had people dropping in all day. It was wonderful. The invitations had his high school graduation on it. It was great.
I am amost able to cope since I doubled my zoloft. I am starting a drop in twice a month grief group this Thursday. I am looking forward to it.
 

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DianeMTB
DianeMTB

Wow! You have a nice family for them to throw you a surprise dinner party to celebrate your 60th birthday. All the best. You celebrated your actual birthday in a positive way. Good for you. My Smokey died at 60. I am turned 54 in January which was a lonely birthday for me. I am going to try to turn being a widow into something positive and being alone doesn\'t always mean being lonely. I like my own company. I prefer being with friends and family but I am okay. My late-mom said I was a contented child. She could put me on the floor and I would be perfectly happy playing by myself. I want to be that child again, be a widow and be perfectly happy playing on the floor alone. It brings back memories. I could always occupy myself or do something by myself to keep busy. I can do it again. It is my challenge to be the best darn happy widow that I can be in this life. It is a change in my life but I am ready to accept the challenge. All the best from Diane
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Happy birthday to you - big milestone; I\'m glad that Pat dropped in for the occasion. It sounds so lovely, and you have all these \"60\" things to wear.

I\'m glad you\'re starting the drop-in grief group. I\'ve only made it to mine twice because I schedule my weekends so heavily and they\'re on Sunday afternoons. I hope you get a lot of help and support from them.

Hugs, Gail
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Happy Birthday and I am so glad that it went well for you in a positive way...firsts can be so hard. I had so many right after my husband passed in Nov. that I think this year might be harder. My birthday was in Dec and his was in Jan. he would have been 60...so we celebrated and released balloons and we made it a special day. My 60th is in Dec. and it will be a little over a year from the time he died...so we shall see. I do seem to have more positive days and think of him with happiness instead of sadness all the time...Happy 60th Brithday! Hugs Ellen
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Good for you..and I love the pink flamingo touch