Mother and Child

Mother and Child by Laura Weldon
http://lauragraceweldon.com/2012/06/12/mother-child-are-linked-at-the-cellular-level/
Today is my youngest child’s birthday. As my mother used to tell me, we always carry our children in our hearts. I know this is true emotionally. Apparently it’s also true on the physical level.
Sometimes science is filled with transcendent meaning more beautiful than any poem. To me, this new research shows the poetry packed in the people all around us.
It’s now known that cells from a developing fetus cross the placenta, allowing the baby’s DNA to become part of the mother’s body.  These fetal cells persist in a woman’s body into her old age. (If she has been pregnant with a male child it’s likely she’ll have some Y-chromosomes drifting around for a few decades too). This is true even if the baby she carried didn’t live to be born. The cells of that child stay with her, resonating in ways that mothers have known intuitively throughout time.
Fetal cells you contributed to your own mother may be found in her blood, bone marrow, skin, kidney, and liver. These fetal cells appear to “treat” her when she is ill or injured.   Researchers have noticed the presence of these cells in women diagnosed with illnesses such as thyroid disease and hepatitis C. In one case, a woman stopped treatment against medical advice. A liver biopsy showed “thousands of male cells” determined to be from a pregnancy terminated nearly 20 years earlier. These cells helped her body recover just as fetal cells you gave your mother rush to help repair her from within when she’s unwell.
Fetal cells may influence a woman’s autoimmunity, although it’s not yet known if they are always beneficial. According to fascinating accounts in Do Chocolate Lovers Have Sweeter Babies?: The Surprising Science of Pregnancy, the more fetal cells there are in a woman’s body, the less likely she is to have conditions such as multiple sclerosis and rheumatoid arthritis. That’s not always the case. It’s thought that a mother’s body may battle those cells, thus promoting her own autoimmune disorders. (Apparently family dynamics are complicated even at the cellular level.)
There’s evidence that fetal cells provide some protection against certain cancers. For example, they’re much more prevalent in the breast tissue of healthy women than in those with breast cancer. And fetal cells can contribute stem cells, generate new neurons in the mother’s brain, even help to heal her heart. Her heart!
Look around at your family. Any woman who has ever been pregnant, even if she miscarried so early she never knew she was with child, is likely to be a microchimera (a person who carries the cells of another person).  Fetal cells have the imprint of her child’s father and his ancestry. Fetal cells can be shared from one pregnancy to another, meaning the cells of older siblings may float within younger siblings. These cells are another reminder of the ways we are connected in a holographic universe.
I’d like to think that my fetal cells helped my mother battle the congestive heart failure that eventually took her life. I like to imagine that I carry within me my older sister’s fierce intelligence and that my talented younger brother benefits in some way from the cells of both his sisters. Knowing that I carry the cells of my four living children as well as babies I lost makes my heart ever more full on this special day.
We heal our mothers and our children heal us. Again poetry takes a back seat to nature’s awesome secrets.
-- Laura Weldon

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Abotsd
Abotsd

My oh My, you\'ve started a revolution in my own heart and such joy to know, for sure, that Jacob\'s cells are within me, though I\'ve felt him a part of me since the day he died. Love you and thanks to you, Abby
biowoman
biowoman

I have never heard this...and I love it! I feel such comfort and a purer understanding of our connection with our children. And I FEEL that deep in my body...as I am sure other mothers here feel. Thank you for sharing this lovely article with us...love and hugs...Karen
heartsandhands
heartsandhands

I also love that I carry cells of my older sister who died, and that my son Byron carries cells of Andy. Blessed be!!!!
deleted_user
deleted_user

I have never heard this either but this information needs to be shared with the world. Just think of the comfort this information would bring to any woman who in any way shape or form carried a baby for any amount of time, no matter the outcome. I love this. Thank you so much for sharing it. BW
katrina39
katrina39

Sarah, this is such an uplifting journal. It warms the heart. Thanks for sharing.
MomofJosh
MomofJosh

There is so much we don\'t know, so much to yet discover and this resonates in my heart. I had to read it twice to place every word in my head. I will be reading this again and again as Josh\'s angel date wanes closer. Thank you for sharing.
CorysMom
CorysMom

Interesting. I must read more about these fetal cells. Thanks, Peggy
ter1
ter1

Wow this is interesting. I love science. Still I know the cells that make up the physical body are not me no more than the nail I just accidentally broke off and threw away. I am, we all are, nonphysical and are just using these conglomerate of cells to navigate through the matter soup we\'re currently swimming in.
sonshinedeb
sonshinedeb

I had read about this early on into the loss of my son. It gave me comfort. I always felt we were connected and this reinforces that feeling. Thanks for posting it. Debbie
inmemoryofhattie
inmemoryofhattie

wow.....

in my current grieving for Ron other losses have of course made their way to be felt and heard....one of them for the first child, first pregnancy, miscarried, never born...missed.....Ron and I would, once every so often wistfully say to each other..\'.I wish we had them both\'....he said it too.....

And so Brendan is a second child although he is thought of by everyone else as an only child.....and yes we endured all the comments about onlies and how spoiled and selfish he must be(people say this to your face!!)...boy I SO wish I had blasted those people with my reality.....but...if you could actually say that to someone,...then...by definition of who they were, it would do absolutely no good.....

This post has affected me so much, I\'ll relate a story here I\'ve told only to couple of people as it has always seemed so odd..... We waited a year or so to try again, were blessed to conceive Brendan almost instantly.

When he was three- ish he said to me one day, totally out of the blue, unrelated as far as I could tell to anything we had been doing or saying ....\'I have a sister, she\'s five\'(the exact age).....I couldn\'t figure out, and still can\'t--- if this was a total fantasy, an imaginary sister,....or what...he never before or since mentioned this....although several years ago, in a context, I did tell him about the first child.....Now that I read this.......I wonder, I wonder.....so much is possible that I could NEVER have imagined.....

I found this post to be the single most uplifting thing I have heard or read in all the years of the losses and sadness here. I am not sure why. It is wondrous to me. It makes me feel all those things about stars and the vastness of everything and all souls.

With gratitude....and love.....
deleted_user
deleted_user

Amazing and fascinating stuff. It seems science, stubborn in its materialism, is actually proving the \"PLAN\" of Creation, and a PLAN requires an Author. When I say I lost part of myself with the loss of my daughter, I really did; but she remains in me, as well as in paradise. This was a wonderful post. Thank you so much for sharing it.
jill
Livingjuicy
Livingjuicy

I have always felt this and so delighted and encouraged to read about it today. In deepest gratitude dear Sarah for discovering and sharing your find!

Loving care to us all,

XO Joanie
Robin4
Robin4

Another testament to motherhood! Thanks for a great post. Love to you. Robin
Pauljac49
Pauljac49

Today is my Jackie\'s Birthday, she would have been 32. Thank you for posting this today. I always knew there was some special and different tie between mother and child. I always said that I carried Jackie under my heart. XXX OOO Gail
RememberKala
RememberKala

Thank you for this very educational entry! I think I learned what I\'ve always known..... This is a beautiful truth I will carry with me forever.

I never knew my first child, Brice, and yet, I know him....he is a part of me, literally. Kala is gone, and yet, can never be gone from me....she is a part of me.

Oh how I love this....think I\'ll read it again!