More brother caused anxiety.
It is posible my sister had another siexure this morning. No one was there but she called me on the phone and sounded disoriented and was non responsive so I took her to the emergency ward and had them check her. they werne't sure she had had a siezure or if it was ony left over form before but they fuigured out she had not taken the medication she had just given her a couple days ago and that it needed to build up in her system and thta might have allowed her to have another siezure or maybe jsut be disoriented.
anyway as is normao for my sister she mils it for everything she can. I don't have too much problem with this but there is nothing we cna do about it and no way to watch her for it. It is completely random and as long as she is taking her medicatoin generally incontrol and handled.
but she called me this morning and was really disoriented sounding. It reminded me of the time I was there when she had a siezure and when seh was coming out of it so Iwent and took her to the emergency ward jsut in case.
After I spent five hours with her at her home mostly watching TV while she dozed most of the time. She had asked me to spend the night with her but the doctors hadn't said thta this was needed and as I had said there is nothing we cna do anyway but be uncomfortable styaing up al night watching TV or trying to sleep inher guest bedroom. I already do not sleep wel lso this is usualy a very uncomfortable and inconvenient thing for me to do . I did it on Thursday the day she had the first recent siezure and it was all I remembered form staying over there before when I was watching her and my dad as my mom was in the hospital. It was a wreck of a night and the following day was very tiring afterward. Then I was awakened early Saturday morning by her likely second siezure so did nto get alot of sleep Friday night either.
She had gotten my brother to stay over Friday night. Ido not know why she needed this or why he did but he did and then the next morning she forgot to take her medicine in the morning and so this is why she probably had a second siezure. so after taking her to the ER and spending 5 more hours with her I went home affter talking to her about not needing to spend the night she was only going to go to bed in a couple hours and I would see her in the morning to go to Church with her and would spend most of tomorrow with her. She didn't make a fuss or even a face and only siad she was probably just going to go to bed and would cal lme inthe morning.
About 20 minutes after getting home I get a cal lform my brother asknig what was going on. I told him. Ten miutes later he calls back and asks if she did have a siezure or not and I told him thta I thought she had but no one witnessed it so we don't really know. The doctor thought she also might have because of her disorientation but also coudl not really know but they found out she had not taken her new medicatoin so at least we cuaght tht and got her medicated.
Ten or so more minutes later my brother calls again and tries to get me to spend the night with her. I tell him no, he starts telling me how he had spent the last night there and was really rtired because he done'st slepe well inother than his own bed. I tell him I have the same problem. He aks if I will do it for him I tel lhim I spent the night in Thrusday whe no one had asked me to. He again says he spent the night Friday, I tell him that is on him it has nothing to do with me. He hangs up.
I call my sister and ask h er to let my brother to stay home and not have to come over to spend the night, to just say he can go home once she goes to bed. I again tell her how we cn'at do anything for her and once she goes to bed there is no reason for us to stay there. I did not like how my brother calls me to try and get me to do what she has asked him to do and he agreed to do. She does this a lot, askes me to do something and when I don't or try to get her to do it herslef she then calls him and askes him to do it. I do not know why he does these things for her that she cna do herself but for her laziness but he gets mad at me for not doing it for her. Again this is on him, if he wants to do it it hsouldhave nothing to do with if I want to do it or not. Somehow he credits himself for loving her more because he does these things for her. I personally think that him doing things she could do for herself even out of love is not helping her.
so, about ten minuteds later my brother calls onc more time and asks if the docotors told her she had a siezure, I todl them they did not that I told the doctors that I thought she had and they agreed it was lprobable because of her not taking her medication and the disorientation she was exhibiting. He said that mys siter told lhe she had one. they never did. They hust acted as if she had. He asked her if she was lying to him. I told her that she isn't lying but she may think they had siad it because they acted as if she had and she was kinda disoriented and so done'st really know whta all was happening. I then started to describe what had happened that morning and he started syaing that she might have sounded idoriented on the phone because she thoughtI might be angry at her. I actually was confused by this because I had no idea wher ti came form and asked him about it but told her how she was disoriented and didin't remember things and he jumped on me and siad you didn't tell me that I told him I wa going to but he went of on how she might have thought I was angry or something so I hadn't gotten to it yet. then he startyed to lecture me on being aloving caring brother and I waid, what do you think made me take her to the ER. I thought she had had another siezure so I took her there. And he started to go off on how I would stay with her idf ehs wnated, I siad I did onThrusday when she wanted but we talked about it and she did not make a deal aobut it to night. He started to go on but I said I don't want to listen to this I don't need alecture form you about how I should or should or shouldn't fee lor how much I love or care for someone.
and he hung up.
Remember all the crap I got form him about hanging up on him (when I actually did not) and how angry he was about it. And later when I did hang up on him after he had done it a few times to me again how angry he was about it. He reminded me once more what ahypocrit and selfish, inconsiderate person he is. He was asked to spend the night and for whatever reason decides not to say no and do it and then gets mad at me and tries to lecture me on caring and loving because he doesn't want to do what he said he would do and can't get me to do it. so he tries to guilt lecture me to do what he siad he would but done'st want to do. If he truly cared and loved her, as he was trying to say to me then why would he be trying to get me to do it? Because he may care and love her and wnat to do it but is stil only concerned with himself. If he can get awya with not doing something he doens't want to do and still think he is doing the caring and loving thing then it is all a win for him. so selfish and self deluding.
Sure I'm being selfish not wanting to stay ther and be uncomfortable and inconvenienced and tired tomorrow and achy but I am not saying I was going to stay there and then try and get someone else to do it. I have done a bunch of things as favors for him with few given back in return and after the whole, stay withthem tonight and I'll stay for the weekend thing back when out mother first went in to the hospital and then completely not doing it and even telling me he lied about thta promise because he wnated to go somewhere that night and never planned to stay over the weekend. You might remember if you have read al lof these not only did he not stay over the weekend he did not even stay a single night. The very next night he freaked out and had to have me come over while he left. Then the next day Sunday he also did not come over when he was supposed to do the whole weekend if I took Friday night he ended up not doing a single night over the weekened. Since that, I have decided to do him no favors other than those which I knew he would recipricate such as picking up one of us if our car breaks down. This is about the only thing he has ever done for me as a favor.
I'm thankful again for this site even if no one ever reads this, as a place to unload and vent al lmy anxieties and record what is causing them. I pray and do the same there but not to this degree as I believe god already knows everything and so I don't have to describe or explain them. Here, in recording them I get a chance to mull them over, think about them rather than worry about them and so releace the anxiety. I think it must have something to do with typing and thrinkgin of the wrods to use is form a different part of the brain than the emotions and anxiety and so in doing this it pulls me away form the anxiety and lets it disipate. So thanks again for a place to do that.
anyway as is normao for my sister she mils it for everything she can. I don't have too much problem with this but there is nothing we cna do about it and no way to watch her for it. It is completely random and as long as she is taking her medicatoin generally incontrol and handled.
but she called me this morning and was really disoriented sounding. It reminded me of the time I was there when she had a siezure and when seh was coming out of it so Iwent and took her to the emergency ward jsut in case.
After I spent five hours with her at her home mostly watching TV while she dozed most of the time. She had asked me to spend the night with her but the doctors hadn't said thta this was needed and as I had said there is nothing we cna do anyway but be uncomfortable styaing up al night watching TV or trying to sleep inher guest bedroom. I already do not sleep wel lso this is usualy a very uncomfortable and inconvenient thing for me to do . I did it on Thursday the day she had the first recent siezure and it was all I remembered form staying over there before when I was watching her and my dad as my mom was in the hospital. It was a wreck of a night and the following day was very tiring afterward. Then I was awakened early Saturday morning by her likely second siezure so did nto get alot of sleep Friday night either.
She had gotten my brother to stay over Friday night. Ido not know why she needed this or why he did but he did and then the next morning she forgot to take her medicine in the morning and so this is why she probably had a second siezure. so after taking her to the ER and spending 5 more hours with her I went home affter talking to her about not needing to spend the night she was only going to go to bed in a couple hours and I would see her in the morning to go to Church with her and would spend most of tomorrow with her. She didn't make a fuss or even a face and only siad she was probably just going to go to bed and would cal lme inthe morning.
About 20 minutes after getting home I get a cal lform my brother asknig what was going on. I told him. Ten miutes later he calls back and asks if she did have a siezure or not and I told him thta I thought she had but no one witnessed it so we don't really know. The doctor thought she also might have because of her disorientation but also coudl not really know but they found out she had not taken her new medicatoin so at least we cuaght tht and got her medicated.
Ten or so more minutes later my brother calls again and tries to get me to spend the night with her. I tell him no, he starts telling me how he had spent the last night there and was really rtired because he done'st slepe well inother than his own bed. I tell him I have the same problem. He aks if I will do it for him I tel lhim I spent the night in Thrusday whe no one had asked me to. He again says he spent the night Friday, I tell him that is on him it has nothing to do with me. He hangs up.
I call my sister and ask h er to let my brother to stay home and not have to come over to spend the night, to just say he can go home once she goes to bed. I again tell her how we cn'at do anything for her and once she goes to bed there is no reason for us to stay there. I did not like how my brother calls me to try and get me to do what she has asked him to do and he agreed to do. She does this a lot, askes me to do something and when I don't or try to get her to do it herslef she then calls him and askes him to do it. I do not know why he does these things for her that she cna do herself but for her laziness but he gets mad at me for not doing it for her. Again this is on him, if he wants to do it it hsouldhave nothing to do with if I want to do it or not. Somehow he credits himself for loving her more because he does these things for her. I personally think that him doing things she could do for herself even out of love is not helping her.
so, about ten minuteds later my brother calls onc more time and asks if the docotors told her she had a siezure, I todl them they did not that I told the doctors that I thought she had and they agreed it was lprobable because of her not taking her medication and the disorientation she was exhibiting. He said that mys siter told lhe she had one. they never did. They hust acted as if she had. He asked her if she was lying to him. I told her that she isn't lying but she may think they had siad it because they acted as if she had and she was kinda disoriented and so done'st really know whta all was happening. I then started to describe what had happened that morning and he started syaing that she might have sounded idoriented on the phone because she thoughtI might be angry at her. I actually was confused by this because I had no idea wher ti came form and asked him about it but told her how she was disoriented and didin't remember things and he jumped on me and siad you didn't tell me that I told him I wa going to but he went of on how she might have thought I was angry or something so I hadn't gotten to it yet. then he startyed to lecture me on being aloving caring brother and I waid, what do you think made me take her to the ER. I thought she had had another siezure so I took her there. And he started to go off on how I would stay with her idf ehs wnated, I siad I did onThrusday when she wanted but we talked about it and she did not make a deal aobut it to night. He started to go on but I said I don't want to listen to this I don't need alecture form you about how I should or should or shouldn't fee lor how much I love or care for someone.
and he hung up.
Remember all the crap I got form him about hanging up on him (when I actually did not) and how angry he was about it. And later when I did hang up on him after he had done it a few times to me again how angry he was about it. He reminded me once more what ahypocrit and selfish, inconsiderate person he is. He was asked to spend the night and for whatever reason decides not to say no and do it and then gets mad at me and tries to lecture me on caring and loving because he doesn't want to do what he said he would do and can't get me to do it. so he tries to guilt lecture me to do what he siad he would but done'st want to do. If he truly cared and loved her, as he was trying to say to me then why would he be trying to get me to do it? Because he may care and love her and wnat to do it but is stil only concerned with himself. If he can get awya with not doing something he doens't want to do and still think he is doing the caring and loving thing then it is all a win for him. so selfish and self deluding.
Sure I'm being selfish not wanting to stay ther and be uncomfortable and inconvenienced and tired tomorrow and achy but I am not saying I was going to stay there and then try and get someone else to do it. I have done a bunch of things as favors for him with few given back in return and after the whole, stay withthem tonight and I'll stay for the weekend thing back when out mother first went in to the hospital and then completely not doing it and even telling me he lied about thta promise because he wnated to go somewhere that night and never planned to stay over the weekend. You might remember if you have read al lof these not only did he not stay over the weekend he did not even stay a single night. The very next night he freaked out and had to have me come over while he left. Then the next day Sunday he also did not come over when he was supposed to do the whole weekend if I took Friday night he ended up not doing a single night over the weekened. Since that, I have decided to do him no favors other than those which I knew he would recipricate such as picking up one of us if our car breaks down. This is about the only thing he has ever done for me as a favor.
I'm thankful again for this site even if no one ever reads this, as a place to unload and vent al lmy anxieties and record what is causing them. I pray and do the same there but not to this degree as I believe god already knows everything and so I don't have to describe or explain them. Here, in recording them I get a chance to mull them over, think about them rather than worry about them and so releace the anxiety. I think it must have something to do with typing and thrinkgin of the wrods to use is form a different part of the brain than the emotions and anxiety and so in doing this it pulls me away form the anxiety and lets it disipate. So thanks again for a place to do that.
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